What if an individual person is annoying. Why do some people piss off for no reason

The day is not good! There are so many people around. Everyone is rushing somewhere, running, this situation is very annoying. For me a trip to public transport always stress! And some are trying to make it worse! Unbearably simple! Some put their elbows apart when they sit. Others turn up the volume in their headphones so that they forcefully force them to listen to what they have screaming there. Where to go from such? What if the people around you are so annoying? I want to stop this once and for all!

Why are people annoying?

Have you faced such a problem?

When the behavior clearly shows a bully or just a headache - everything is clear. But it happens that a person irritates for no reason. There's a person in the office. There is nothing unusual in her behavior. Smiles at you, talks tactfully, even helps you with paperwork. And inside of everything you turn over only from her presence next to you.

If you search the Internet for such cases, you can find a number of main reasons why other people annoy us:

personal dislike for others;
personal problems;
psychological fatigue;
overestimated requirements for others.

It remains to decide what to do with all this? I would like to understand which of the reasons makes us angry with people.

How does our irritation appear?

We get annoyed with people when we don't get what we want.

Have you watched as any kid 3-5 years old throws a tantrum? He can even throw himself to the floor and kick. Why is he doing this?

The reason is simple: you didn't get what you wanted

The child wants to get a favorite toy in the store. Mom doesn't buy. How did it happen? I want - and I can't get ... It makes you feel uncomfortable. While the child is still small, the only way is to be capricious and scream. Show your displeasure in all available ways. Mom at this moment is bad, because she did not give what she wants. The child is angry with her.

And if mom gives what she wants, the hysteria immediately stops. The tears were gone. A big smile, good-oh-oh-oh so! Overwhelming joy. And mom becomes good again.

In adults it is the same. But you won't throw yourself on the floor, you won't stomp with your feet. And we have more desires. Each of us is puzzled by ours. When we do not achieve what we want, we have internal discomfort. This burdens us, there is dissatisfaction with ourselves, life, other people begin to irritate us. Because they don't do the way we want them to. They don't understand us.

What annoys us and how do we annoy others?

People are the same in shape: everyone has a head, legs, arms. However, we are all different in terms of inner content, in our mental component. Everyone has their own desires.

Read the results of the training participants.

"I constantly had conflicts with all people"

The article was written using materials from Yuri Burlan's online trainings "System-vector psychology"

Does your husband annoy with severity and indifference? Eye twitching from a neighbor whose dog barks all night long? Angry with the crush on the bus and kilometer traffic jams during rush hour? And pissed off by a smoking taxi driver complaining about politics?

Anger, anger, rejection and irritation at others are signals that your subconscious mind gives. You see in othersown qualitiesthat you do not accept or are diligently masking. Now I'll tell you why this is happening and what to do about it.

Why does like attract like

Irritation with others is common. Sometimes it seems that "irritants" lie in wait around the corner in order to unbalance. Of course, they can be avoided, but this will not change the situation. Other irritants will appear. Why is this happening?

According to the law of attractionlike attracts like. And people are attracted to each other by similar signs. Therefore, reality "mirrors" what is happening inside you. And the qualities that annoy you simply do not accept in yourself, you try to hide or suppress.

Because of what we DO NOT accept ourselves

Inside each of us - whole system beliefs and stereotypes that were laid in a variety of ways. Take the example of childhood: parents, caregivers, teachers, and society all taught that swearing and brawling was very, very bad. You have grown up and this conviction continues to rule you.

And now you are annoyed by everyone who fiercely defends their opinion and their rights, argues, swears. You condemn such a person, believing that he is doing wrong. And they themselves are not averse to scolding a spouse or letting off steam, arguing with a friend.

How to accept your flaws [technique]

Self-acceptance occurs through comprehension and awareness of the reason for what is happening.

Do it step by step:

Write down everyone who is very annoying on paper.
Identify the reasons for the irritation - which qualities are causing you a negative reaction.
Admit it honestly - do you have these traits?
Do you agree that there is? Then ask yourself: why am I denying it?
Give yourself time to figure out the real reason.
Write on a piece of paper what belief or stereotype is interfering with acceptance, and who or what has put this attitude in you.
Consider whether this belief is serving you now - promoting you or hindering you on the contrary.
After realizing the uselessness, remember the person who annoys you - is he so unpleasant for you now, or has the irritation gone?

Stop judging and evaluating

We are used to dividing people into good and bad, the world into black and white. Assess events. Sometimes it helps, but more often it hurts. Because we drive ourselves and others into the framework of an imaginary ideal.

Avoiding comparison and judgment significantly changes the lives of those around you, too. Start with yourself. Stop comparing yourself with others, your results with the achievements of other people. Do not reproach yourself, do not regret. Don't compare income levels, families. Everyone has his own path. And your mission is to go your own way!

Don't let your brain take you away« to the side»

Changes in consciousness and perception will scare your brain. Therefore, the acceptance of oneself and all the people of this Planet does not happen in one day. Otherwise, the brain will start saying: "This is all nonsense, this does not work."

The most important thing in all practices, techniques and exercises is taking full and unconditional responsibility for yourself, your life and all its events. And also for people and their behavior. Accept that it is not people’s fault. You yourself create situations, and people just mirror you.

Accept this world in all its diversity and be happy!

Are you ready to admit that everything that annoys you in another person is in you?

Do you want to annoy people in order to get revenge on them or just for fun? You already annoying personwho wants to hone their skills? Do you want to get on the nerves of someone in particular, say, a teacher or your boyfriend? It doesn't really matter what your reason is, if you want to annoy others, read on!

Steps

How to annoy people in public

Be annoying on public transport. Vehicle occupants are priority targets for your challenging behavior. They are often tired after a long day at work, well, or tired of long, exhausting trips during the day. Here are a couple of tips on how to piss them off:
- If you are on an airplane, try to take up as much space as possible. Spread your arms and elbows as wide as possible, stretch out with pleasure, spreading your arms so that they capture the personal space of your neighbor, the one sitting next to you, as much as possible.
  - If you are sitting by the window, stand up often in such a way as to get the people sitting in the same row with you to stand. Declare, "Sorry, my bladder is so small!" and you will pick them up from their place, and as soon as you come back, you find yourself in the row again, say, "OH - don't worry!" they will all rise again, and you will sit down.
- If someone is sitting next to you especially nervous, constantly ask him if it seems to him that the plane is issuing some strange sound... On takeoff, start praying and breathing deeply.
- If you are traveling by bus or train, despite the fact that there is a lot of free space around, be sure to take a seat next to another passenger.
  - Try to talk on the phone as loudly as possible. Make sure everyone can hear you. If someone asks you to shut up, speak in a loud whisper.
  - Be sure to start a conversation with someone who is obviously very tired and wants to be alone. Start a phrase that is unpleasant for him: "Hey, why do you look so tired?"
  - If your vehicle doesn't have a lot of free seats, put your belongings in the seat next door. And if someone wants to sit down and asks you to put your things away, then shrug your shoulders and say, "Sorry, I borrowed it for a friend."
Behave like a clown during sporting events. Usually there are a lot of people at big sporting events, and many are eagerly waiting for their team to win. For most of them, this is the most important event of the week. Better place in order to get on people's nerves is not found.
- Root out loud for both teams at once. Cheer for the opposing team first, until the other's fans get angry, then do the same with the other. Shout, cheer anywhere, for any reason, no matter what commands do.
- Bring a lot of noisy, annoying props with you: megaphones, pipes, whistles - in general, get sick as loud as possible.
- Be destructive. Get up as often as possible, especially if you are sitting in the middle of a long row. When getting up, block the view of the person sitting behind you, especially at important moments of the game. During key moments, try to speak loudly.
- Sprinkle, spill your food. Sprinkle popcorn and chips around you, sprinkle soda. Your comrades will be at a loss. It will be a bonus if you accuse them of bringing you here.
- Pretend you don't know the rules of the game. It will have a huge impact on loyal fans. Cheer with wild fervor at a time when nothing special is happening in the game, keep asking others to explain the rules to you.
  - You will be especially hated if you confuse the rules with another sports game. For example, if someone shoots on goal in football, shout "Touchdown!" or if someone scores a goal, shout "Run to base!"
Behave like an idiot in the museum. Museums are places where peace and respect are required. People come there to be in a serious environment, to admire the art. Here are some ways to get them off balance:
- Be loud. Laugh out loud, talk on the phone, or send SMS out loud. Oh yes, those around you will be delighted.
- Shout out to people. Until you are kicked out, pretend to be a museum worker and make noisy remarks to people who are talking.
- Do you want to know what drives people off the best in a museum? After a long study of a strange sculpture or incomprehensible painting, declare loudly, "I could do that too!"
How to annoy your soulmate
1. Talk about your ex as much as possible. This is the best way to piss off your loved one. Emphasize how great your ex is, talk about all of your ex's accomplishments in top shape. Here are some tips for talking about your ex in front of your current partner:
  - Focus on the correspondence with your ex, and always laugh at what he says. Say out loud "He's the best!" This works especially well at dinner with your loved one.
  - Invite your ex to go out. Shock your loved one that instead of dating him, you are going to hang out with your ex. You can also invite your ex to a small party where it will be more difficult for your partner to kick him out.
  - Always compare your current one to your ex. You can say something like this: "This one is pretty good, but my ex was the best cook!"
2. Start swearing earlier and more often. Nothing is so annoying as a person who constantly scandals, swears, and for no particular reason. You can piss off your loved one in just a minute, just start scandalizing with him from scratch. Here are a couple of tips to be more intolerable:
  - Start swearing at the wrong time. It's great to start a scandal on Valentine's Day, especially on the birthday of your loved one, or in the presence of your spouse's parents.
  - Scandal for no reason. Start a squabble simply because you are not in the mood. Get angry about a drop of water spilled or showing up on a date one minute early.
3. Upset your dates. In order for you to have a wonderful date, your beloved has worked hard. There is hardly a better way to piss off your young man than to ruin the date. Here are some tips to ruin your date:
  - Be very late. This works especially well if you are going to a movie or a show. When you appear, show alienation. Say, "Oh, am I really too late?" or "Sorry, I was delayed by a conversation with an ex!"
  - Complain about everything. If you're watching a movie, keep repeating how boring it is. If you went to a restaurant, complain about the food, say that it is either dry or tasteless. If your order has been being carried for more than a minute, snap your fingers and take a deep breath.
  - Flirt with someone. If you are having dinner together, ask the waiter for the phone number and giggle.
  - Spend the entire evening in his presence on the phone. Nothing is more annoying than the sound of typing a text message.
How to piss off friends
1. Be weird. Your friends will not like it when you start making some plans, setting everyone up, inspiring, and when everything should already happen, you will break everyone at the very last minute by saying that you cannot. It's a proven method, no matter how good your friends are. A few more tips below:
  - Cancel a meeting with your friends while they are already on their way to you. Wait a little before appearing at the appointed place. Without explaining anything, tell them that you cannot do this through a text message.
  - Before you trick, say, "I know I'm awesome, but I swear I'll come on time!"
  - If you were the only one your friends were counting on to go to the event, tell them you can't because you found something better to do.
2. Always tell them about your problems, and in turn, do not listen to them. Unilateral friendship is very annoying. Complain to them for a long time about something, and as soon as their turn comes up, slip away from listening. Below are some tips about this:
  - Complain over trifles. This method works very well, complaining about small things is very effective, for example, if someone cut you off on the road. The longer you grind all these everyday little things, the better.
  - Don't take their serious problems seriously. If something really bad happened to your friend, just ignore it and leave. For example, if your friend's car is stolen, you can simply say, "This is not the end of the world!"
    - It will be especially unpleasant for your girlfriend if, after seven years of relationship, a boyfriend leaves her. It is even worse if he says something frivolous, like: "You are not the only fish in the sea!" Your friend will be very pissed off if you start comparing her relationship to your two-day relationship.
3. Be jealous. Jealousy in friendship is very annoying. This pushes it to the limit very quickly. A couple of tips on how to be an envious friend:
  - Your girlfriend's young man. Spend time constantly talking about how your friend's boyfriend is not good enough for her. When you're in the company of both of you, try to ignore your friend's boyfriend. If you've joined them for a movie, sit between them with a large packet of popcorn and chomp.
  - Friends of your friends. Complain constantly that your friends' friends are annoying. Choose the most pleasant, good and repeat it to him repeatedly.
How to unbalance parents
1. Spend all their money. It will definitely piss them off. Your parents are working hard to make that money, and not being serious about their work is not only disrespectful, but also very annoying. A few tips in the same direction:
  - Speak out loud about your frivolous behavior, about how you spent all their money on designer items or very expensive dishes.
  - If you're old enough to spend parenting money, still pretend to be a ten-year-old. Constantly ask your parents for pocket money and indignantly ask why they no longer support you with money.
  - If you're an adult but don't want to work, just keep saying, “I'm an artist, huh? I'm above all the rules. " If they continue to insist that you have to work, shout: "You are tearing my soul!"
2. Blame them for ruining your life. This will really annoy your parents. They probably didn't do anything like that, but try to keep your life simple. Here are some tips on how to be creepyly intolerable:
  - Say out loud: "I didn't ask (a) to give birth, did you?"
  - If they asked you to do something, and in a polite manner, for example, to throw out the trash, say, "Why are you doing this to me?"
3. Don't follow their rules. Your parents set certain rules, and nothing is more annoying than completely ignoring them. Show a complete lack of respect for household chores, show how annoying you are. Below are tips:
  - Treat household chores with disdain. If you are asked why you haven't done this or that, just say, "Who, me?"
  - If asked to clean up the mess, say, "Do you think I am a slave?"
  - Bring unpleasant people home at the wrong time. Bring your new, eccentric young man on your father's birthday.
  - Throw parties without asking your parents. This works especially well on weekdays.
How to make your teacher angry
1. Don't follow your teacher's rules or directions. Every teacher always tries to establish their own specific rules in the class, and there is nothing more annoying than a cheeky student who neglects them. Disregard of generally accepted classroom rules is a strong irritant. Here are some tips:
  - Waste class time by asking the teacher about the same thing several times. This works especially well if you ask again something very understandable, which is already written on the board.
  - If you missed a class and instead of looking in a textbook or asking a classmate, ask the teacher, "What did I miss?"
    - If you really want to anger the teacher, then say: "Did I miss something?"
  - The moment the teacher chastises you for something you shouldn't have done, show alienation and say, "Sorry, just my previous teacher said that this is normal!"
2. Disrupt the lesson. It is quite annoying that a student who not only does not listen carefully, but who also interferes with the teacher and the rest of the students. A couple of tips on how to make noise:
  - Show up to class late and noisy. Run into class with a noise, breathing heavily, "Sorry, I'm late!" inhaling and exhaling heavily, throw your things all over the place, create noise and confusion. Once you are seated, repeat your favorite phrase, "Did I miss something?"
  - Talk to your classmates. Talk actively with other students while the teacher is speaking. It is especially annoying if you ask other students anything that you should ask the teacher.
    - If you want an incredible level of annoyance, then ask the teacher a question, and while he is diligently answering you, you will start talking to your classmate, completely ignoring the teacher. This will be more than enough!
  - Use your mobile phone during the lesson. Let it lie on your desk and vibrate repeatedly. Set to silent mode. Or put a deafening ringtone on it. Let the phone ring while you are looking for it in your bag, it will take a very long time before you turn it off. This will surely disrupt the lesson and piss out your classmates. And what a good effect on the teacher!
3. Be a know-it-all. None of the teachers love students who show they know more than they do. This works especially well if your teacher is really big on his subject and you know absolutely nothing. A couple of tips on how to be a know-it-all:
  - After your teacher has finished the story, say, "How can you be so sure of this?" If your teacher is trying to explain something to you that is true, say with confidence, “I think it makes sense,” but try to appear unconvinced.
  - At the moment of receiving a reprimand from the teacher, roll your eyes and sigh. It works just super!
  - Constantly refer to other teachers, parents, or even friends as true experts. Always, after the teacher finishes speaking, say "But my father says ..."
  - Let your teacher know if you think you deserve a higher grade.
  - People at sporting events can be especially impatient. If their team loses, or they get too drunk, they can hurt you and cause irreparable damage. Remember that you are playing with fire by annoying people you don't know.
4. Consequences of defiant behavior with a loved one or friends. Pissing off the people who care about you is pretty fraught with the risk of being completely alone one day. Here are some examples of what can happen:
  - Your boyfriend will be able to leave you at any time. Being alone is not so interesting to be unbearable.
  - Friends can stop hanging out with you. You can easily get dumped by your friends for acting like a goat. Annoying is not so interesting when there is no one to annoy.
- If you are lucky, then when going downstairs say "Wooiiii!"
- Always, after being told something, ask again.
- Whoever says anything, always repeat it in an interrogative form.
- If you were asked a question, ask again in the same way. A sarcastic expression works very well.
- When someone counts something, shout out any number. This is a very good way to piss someone off.
- Write the climax of the novel on the very first page.
- Always after someone has said something, repeat "Really?" For example, if someone says, "I got 100 points on an exam," say "Really, right?"
- Answer the statements: "This is how you think!"
- Splash before your friends touch the water.
- Let's understand that the conversation is over by barking like a dog.
- End your story with "As a true poet would say."
- Refuse to do anything until asked twice.
Warnings
- If you continue to annoy people further, you will lose your parents' respect, and your friends will easily leave you.
- If you get people in in public places, then at one point you can be seriously hurt.

It happens that even people close and dear to us annoy us. It seems that everything is going fine, but at one point the person who is nearby begins to terribly irritate and unnerve us. Moreover, this irritation can be both one-sided and mutual.

The most unpleasant when annoying person in the fact that when an emotion of irritation arises, it is already very difficult for us to pull ourselves together and start a compromise dialogue with this person. We get nervous and angry. Sometimes we say to him everything that we would never say in a calm state.

So why does it happen that we are annoyed by any person? It seems that there are no reasons for irritation, but we still get annoyed ... Some people argue that we are irritated in other people by those character traits and behavior to which we ourselves are prone.

There is some truth in this statement. We do not want to admit our own shortcomings, but the negative traits of another person act on us "like a red rag on a bull."

However, one should not consider the opinions of psychologists too superficially. As always, the truth of the statement about general character traits lies elsewhere.

Our perception of the behavior of people around to a large extent depends on our own internal constraints. If, according to our convictions, some actions are unacceptable, and another person in our presence calmly allows himself to perform these actions, this person begins to irritate us. And the more his behavior goes beyond our acceptance, the more irritation arises. For example, a grateful client brought you a box of chocolates at work. Since you were brought up on the principle that “you need to share with others” and “that they will think badly of you if you take the present home,” you open the box of chocolates and treat the whole office. You love sweets and would love to eat them yourself, but due to your upbringing, you cannot do this and treat your colleagues. And now the day comes when your colleague is also presented with sweets, which he calmly opens and eats in one face right before your eyes. This behavior of a colleague can shock you and cause severe irritation to this colleague.

Setting ourselves internal frameworks and limitations and, at the same time, observing “uncontrolled behavior on the part of other people”, we accumulate negative internal conflicts... Accumulating, these internal conflicts, when similar situations arise, break out, causing a real conflict between people, for no apparent reason for the other side. And now the person wonders why they are so unexpectedly angry and relapsed at him, because, in his opinion, he “did nothing of the kind” to cause such a reaction.

But what about us, because irritation with the person next to us does not allow us to calm down and calmly go about our business? Emotions overwhelm us without allowing us to calm down. For example, we can limit our communication with the irritant, but this is not an option, since the next time the irritation may appear again. The most correct thing would be to analyze your own reactions and understand the causes of irritation.

What prevents us from accepting a person as he is, even with his “informal” behavior? After all, the reason is not in this person, but in ourselves. Remember how your parents raised you, what values \u200b\u200bthey instilled in you. What behavior of a person who was near and caused irritation caused negative emotions. Why did they appear? What actions do you not allow yourself to do? When did you ban this behavior for yourself? Why? What caused it?

How much do you need this prohibition yourself? Maybe it's outdated or no longer relevant? Maybe you should get rid of it if it bothers you? If we manage to get rid of internal limitations, we can come to a calm perception of the world, spiritual harmony and get rid of unnecessary negative emotions. Understanding the cause of irritation, we can work to eliminate it, and if the cause cannot be removed, we can change our attitude towards the irritating factor.

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Irritation towards people and the origins of the emerging disharmony with oneself and the world around. In the article, experienced experts will recommend ways to resolve the problem in the most alternative way.

Causes of irritation to people

A wave of negativity in relation to other representatives of society in a person with a voiced problem can be caused by the following factors:

Rejection of other people... Misanthropes are persons who literally hate all of humanity. They try to move away even from the immediate environment, because it annoys them for any reason and without it.
Personal animosity... Some individuals direct their negative energy exclusively towards a specific person. At the same time, they do not experience bouts of aggression towards other people, even if they are directly related to the irritant object.
Envy... An insurmountable obstacle on the way to a dream very often causes a flash of irritation towards certain persons. Someone will be pissed off by successful and rich people in the absence of their own financial well-being, and someone will be happy family men if the envious person is not fulfilled in this area. A similar condition can occur even when a person is on a diet, and before his eyes, people with appetite absorb high-calorie foods.
Excessive requirements... Not every one of us is able to soberly assess other people's capabilities against the background of our own imperfection. It is the bias in this matter that can make a person out of an adequate person who is annoyed by literally everyone around.
Personal problems... Betrayal or indifference of loved ones, troubles at work can cause a feeling of depression in the injured party. The contemplation of the well-being of others makes such losers even more indignant.
Psychological fatigue... People are constantly annoyed if a person is depressed long time... Emotional exhaustion is often accompanied by health problems, making the patient an irritable person.
Hormonal fluctuations... Women on the so-called critical days and during the onset of menopause often lose control over their self-control. Even a husband and children are able to throw them out of balance by the very harmless act.
Side effects of drugs... Some medications that are used for therapy in case of malfunction of the endocrine, cardiovascular system and during problems with the digestive tract can cause irritation in a person towards other people.
Complex nature... Sullen, unsociable, and bilious individuals are rarely positive about trying to get closer to them. Hot-tempered and selfish people are also prone to bouts of discontent at any contact with society.
Irritation to outrageous personalities... People who like to shock society quite often cause irritation and censure in it. Outrage can arise from eccentric appearance provocateurs or because of their unconventional behavior.
Inability to maintain distance... This is especially noticeable when people are on public transport. Not everyone will like the fact that a complete stranger is pressing against him (albeit for a forced reason).
Alcohol abuse... Drunkards are rarely good-natured individuals with whom it is pleasant to deal. They will infuriate any adequate person, because he feels an obvious negative towards himself.

Note! Thinking about why people irritate, the reasons should be sought first of all in oneself. External factors rarely affect the appearance and course of a sounded emotional state, which can end in pathology.

How a person who is annoyed by people behaves

In most cases, such a factor is unrealistic to hide from others. When in contact with a person unpleasant for them, such people begin to react as follows:

Change speech volume... If another person annoys, then when talking to him, the intonation changes dramatically. The conversation begins to be conducted in a raised voice and even with the use of unacceptable statements and expressions.
Sharp movements... In a friendly way, patting on the shoulder or shaking hands is pleasant only to the person who is nice or does not cause negative emotions. Otherwise, hostility will be expressed in nervous gestures and demonstrative postures of a person who is annoyed by the need for contact with an unpleasant person.
Acceleration of eyeball movement... If doctors have not established anatomical violations of this kind, then such a reaction to an annoying object is a signal of a person's unwillingness to communicate with other people in any encroachment on his territory.
Rapid breathing... The voiced reaction to society and all its components is often a sign that an individual prefers solitude from society. Famous hermits in this way reacted at the physiological level to the desire of someone to make contact with them.
Sweating palms... A similar unpleasant phenomenon occurs in most cases with strong excitement, which does not always have a positive character of education.
Aggressive behavior... If the contactee, despite the obvious reluctance to communicate with him, continues to insist on the conversation, then all this can end in a quarrel and even a fight.

Attention! Frequent emotional breakdowns ultimately lead to a disease such as neurosis. It is almost impossible to get rid of it on your own, therefore psychologists do not recommend starting a situation of internal discomfort to such an extent.

Varieties of irritation towards people

Experts say that not always similar manifestations emotional breakdown can be characterized by a single scheme. There are the following types of human behavior when rejecting other people:

Irritation - fear... Any individual tries to isolate himself as much as possible from what scares him. If someone from the environment or the entire population of the planet as a whole causes terror in a person, then this factor will annoy him and push him to hermit.
Rejection is resentment... Sometimes, not only by an act or a careless word, but also by a sidelong glance, you can hurt the soul of an impressionable person. After the incident, she will begin to get nervous in the presence of the offender, trying in the future to avoid contact with him and witnesses of an unpleasant situation.
Irritation is guilt... In some cases, people begin to feel embarrassed around the person who has been hurt. Few people like to remember their unworthy act every time they meet with the offended side.
Irritation is anger... Resentment against another person can sometimes reach such proportions that it turns into real hatred. Meetings with the betrayed party cause such negative emotions that it is better to completely exclude them.

How to get rid of annoyance towards people

Ways of dealing with a factor that interferes with fully existing in society depend on who exactly causes such a reaction. Since there are a lot of reasons for a negative reaction, the solution to the problem is selected individually in each case.

How to deal with irritation towards all people

If a storm of negative emotions is caused by a large number of persons, then it is necessary to act according to the following plan:

Controlling your own behavior... To do this, first of all, you should understand the sources of your true feelings. The human psyche is arranged in such a way that you can make adjustments to its functioning. At the beginning of irritation against any person, it is worth taking a deep breath of air into the lungs and mentally counting to ten.
Giving up illusions... None of the people are obliged to meet the expectations of strangers. As life practice shows, ideal people do not exist. You should accept this fact and not impose your principles and views on life on anyone. With this approach, everything will be perceived much easier and many contrived problems will be resolved.
Getting rid of the dynamic stereotype... It is not necessary to light the wick, so that then a powerful explosion does not occur. Some people wind up mechanically when they find themselves in the same situation. It is necessary to abstract from it in order to avoid another emotional breakdown.
Positive thinking method... In this case, you can even mentally make a motto for yourself the hackneyed expression that all people are brothers and sisters to each other. And relatives, as they say, are not chosen.
Elimination of diseases... Irritability towards people, as already mentioned, can be the cause of the onset and treatment of certain pathologies. With the elimination of the source of mental discomfort or the elimination of drugs that provoke aggressive behavior, communication with society will cease to be a significant problem.
Healthy lifestyle... People who don't eat well, have bad habits and don't get enough sleep often turn into rather aggressive personalities. With the normalization of the voiced problem, the desire to enter into a conflict with someone may completely disappear.
Denial of envy... Each of us has our own personal qualities that need to be improved. To harbor black spite towards more successful people is a waste of time that you could use for yourself to avoid irritation at the sight of someone else's welfare.
Loyal attitude to non-standard people... The planet's population cannot be similar to each other, because in this case, humanity will turn into a gray mass. It should be remembered that the same tattooed biker or gay is often a wonderful person compared to some exemplary members of society.

How to eliminate irritation to a specific person

If there are outbursts of aggression towards a relative, friend or colleague, the following actions should be taken:

Straight Talk... It is sometimes extremely difficult to find a common language with a stranger, and in most cases no attempts were made to resolve the conflict with the immediate environment. The expression that everything will go away by itself is definitely not suitable for a situation where children, parents or friends are annoying.
Introspection... It is necessary to understand for yourself clear answers to the questions "Why should I take out my internal problems on my loved ones?", "Is it necessary to risk my career if I clearly dislike a colleague or boss?" or "Is it worth it to spoil your own and other people's health because of irritation towards loved ones?"
Refusal to attempt re-education... If the matter does not concern moralizing in relation to the younger generation of the family, then psychologists recommend stopping raising adults already. In difficult situations for relatives, you can give them good advice, but in no case should you criticize and make hasty conclusions. Otherwise, they will rebel, and communication with them will annoy both sides.
Slow time method... At the first symptoms of the onset of an attack of aggression in relation to relatives or colleagues, it is necessary to turn your perception of reality into slow-motion shots. It is recommended to concentrate on all the little things in order to let the focus of your irritation in a different direction.
Projecting the situation for the future... In this case, very a case in point will be the work of Charles Dickens "A Christmas Carol", where the greedy and unscrupulous Scrooge could see his past, present and future. The ending of his life shocked the curmudgeon so much that he radically changed his behavior. A person who annoys some people should think about the possibility of losing contact with them forever.
Looking at yourself from the outside... Before taking out your negativity on a loved one or just an acquaintance, experts recommend watching some movies. In this case, such masterpieces as "Kramer vs. Kramer", "The War of the Rose Spouses" and "In Bed with the Enemy" are perfect.
Displacement of irritation on inanimate objects... Some people wonder what to do if the person who is dear is annoying. If emotions go off scale so that blood rushes to the head, then it is necessary to urgently stabilize your emotional state. This recommendation especially applies to choleric people who can take out their negativity on a punching bag or pillow.
Stopping communication with the irritant... If a friend begins to cause extremely negative emotions and at the same time does not want to behave differently, then it is worth getting rid of such contact once and for all. Honest man he is always aware of his mistakes, and an outright scoundrel will be happy to continue insulting his victim.

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