Is it possible to become a brave person. How to be brave

Success comes only when you take a bold step forward. Due to indecision, embarrassment, timidity, lack of initiative and cowardice, we miss out on many good chances. If you were bolder, then everything in life would turn out differently.

"The only way to enjoy life is to be fearless and not be afraid of defeat and disaster" Jawaharlal Nehru

The proverb "Better in the hands of a tit than a crane in the sky" for weaklings who are not confident in themselves. By being courageous, you will achieve whatever you desire. Will you try? Better both a titmouse in hand and a crane in hand! But not otherwise! How to become bold and why?

Courage makes a person more confident both internally and externally.
Courage allows you to properly assess your chances, not diminish them.
Courage helps you defend your interests.
Courage provides an opportunity to act, ignoring the possible risks that are always there.
Courage makes it clear that there are important things to take risks.
Courage is not given at birth, but everyone can become strong and courageous.

How to become brave in a fight, brave in communication with a girl and brave in life? How to stop being afraid, become more confident and more determined? How to become liberated and even arrogant? Do you want to become a brave self-confident person? The coolest and most daring?

How to become bold

Believe in yourself

"Fortune prefers the brave"

How to become bold? Believe in yourself. We often give up positions due to the fact that we do not trust ourselves. We do not believe in our capabilities, strengths and prospects. We relax and hesitate to act. We are in a weaker position. We retreat from the girl we like, promising work and interesting opportunities. It's easier to give up, get depressed, and fold in front of new chances. Maybe it's time to trust yourself? Get the courage out of your wide trousers? Believe in yourself? You are not worse than the others, and in many ways even better. Go ahead!

Do not be afraid of change and defeat

"Fate helps the brave" Poet Ancient Rome Virgil Publius Maron

How to become bold? Stop being afraid of changes in life. The fear of change pulls us back into the swamp. Courage is not so much the absence of fear as the understanding that there is something more important in life than fear and caution. When you are afraid, then ask yourself who are you: a pathetic coward and a daredevil?

We are afraid to get acquainted, because then we will have to show ourselves from the best side. Be cheerful, charming, gallant. We are afraid that we will not succeed and it will all end with a broken heart. But this is commonplace cowardice. You might have a great romance or a nice story, but do you back down? It's time to act more courageously.

Is there an opportunity to try a career in a new place? But you are accustomed to a stable job, even if it is low-paid, hopeless and uninteresting. You are afraid to dream. You do not want to try, but you are afraid of theoretical defeats, which most likely will never happen.

Don't be afraid to live

“Brave and courageous people make their own destiny” by Paulo Coelho

How to become bold? Stop being afraid to live. Look your fear in the eye and get rid of this phobia. Calculate the risk and take action. Celebrate all your victories, albeit small ones. Don't be afraid to take risks. Forget about judgment or gossip. Don't let failures and shortcomings dictate to you. Don't be afraid to live. Be brave.

Courage is the lot the mighty this. Courage is your shield and sword in modern world... You won't get anywhere without her. Courage lies not only in dreams and plans, but also in actions. Successful people don't give in to opportunities. They are not cowards. Get out of your comfort zone. Move ahead. Challenge yourself and accept it yourself. Be brave.

How to develop qualities in yourself that help any person to be successful, happy and fulfilled in life? On the one hand, it's easy to say, "Just be that way and that's it!" On the other hand, when a person finds himself in a situation where it is necessary to display such qualities, he forgets about everything and becomes himself.

Courage, determination and self-confidence do not give a person anything. You can sit within four walls and think that you have similar qualities. However, when a situation arises that requires the manifestation of these character traits, then the person shows how brave, decisive and self-confident he is.

First you need to define the concepts in order to understand what you need to develop in yourself:

1. Courage is a quality when a person, in spite of all his fears, does not allow them to take over and continues to act as intended.
2. Decisiveness is a categorical disposition to achieve a result, as well as the ability to make decisions and think with your own head.
3. Self-confidence is a person's belief in his own strength, understanding of his own capabilities and the availability of resources, the conviction that he will cope with whatever he encounters.

So, a person is rarely born in an environment full of all the benefits that he may need. Usually a person is born in a world where he must fight for his own happiness. And the more courageous, decisive and confident he is, the more chances he has to achieve what he wants. How can you develop qualities that help you achieve a better life?

How to get bolder?

Courage is shown where a person must fight his own fears. To a greater extent, a person is afraid not of what is really happening to him, but of what he imagines in his head. Thus, to become bolder, you need to start by realizing that all of your fears are mostly in your head.

Look at the reality: is what you are afraid of already happening to you? If you are afraid to fall, but do not fall, or you are afraid of condemnation, while no one is condemning you at this moment, then what are you afraid of?

Fantasy can both help a person achieve goals and hinder. It allows you not only to plan your further paths of action, but also to paint terrible pictures of what might happen if events begin to unfold in an unfavorable way. A person is afraid of something that has not happened yet. How grounded is your fear?

To become bolder, you need to understand that you are afraid of something that does not exist. Until terrible events happen to you, you can not be afraid! What if a frightening thing happened to you? In such a situation, you move on to the next solution to the question:

1. Do you start to be afraid, run away, defend yourself from your fear, thereby depriving yourself of the opportunity to follow the planned path that leads you to the goal?
2. Or do you clench your fists and teeth to be afraid and at the same time perform the necessary actions?

Courage is when the eyes are afraid and the hands are doing. You have to go through the situation that scares you. And here some say “I cannot”, thereby allowing fears to prevail, while others convince themselves: “I can!”. Courage is not a quality with which people are born and live forever, but a character trait that develops and is developed by a person every time he begins to be afraid, while continuing to do what is needed.

Courage develops by overcoming all your fears daily. You can start small when you are afraid of an unpleasant glance or criticism from a stranger. Each time, overcome your own fear, and this will develop your courage.

How to become bolder and more confident in yourself?

Courage requires overcoming one's own fears, which mainly live in a person's head, and self-confidence needs an individual's conviction that he can overcome everything, take the necessary actions. Self-confidence can be either understated or overstated. However, if we talk about adequate self-confidence, then it is she who helps in achieving goals:

1. Low self-confidence is a person's understanding that he has the strength to do something, while he does not have a strong motivation to use his own strength. He would rather refuse to perform the necessary actions than agree to use his power. And if so, then a person eventually begins to get used to the idea that one should not rely on himself.
2. Inflated self-confidence is an exaggeration of a person's own capabilities. By and large, a person does nothing, but he tries to convince others that he is capable of something.
3. Adequate self-confidence is an understanding of what forces and resources a person possesses, while being ready to use them at the right time, and if an individual does not possess something, then he is ready to acquire it.

Self-confidence, like courage, is not a constant value in a person. Today you can be confident in yourself, and tomorrow you will lose this feeling. What does it depend on? From what you focus your attention on and how often you prove to yourself that you are capable of something.

• Keep a journal of your accomplishments. Reread it each time to remind yourself of what you are capable of.
• Pay attention to your opinion. As long as you care what other people think of you, you will always slow down the process.
• Emphasize what good things can happen. As long as you focus on your fears, you force yourself not to act.
• Take risks. However, this risk must be justified. Just don't take risks to show your courage and bravery. Take the risk if even a negative result is good for you.
• Women should pay attention to their appearance. Being beautiful on the outside will automatically boost your confidence.
• Try to achieve new things. This can be new knowledge, the development of new skills.
• Men are advised to pay less attention to failure. They happen to everyone. However, if you focus on success, then you will be more concerned with how to achieve it and what to do about it.

How to become bolder and more determined?

On the way to any goal, a person will be forced to solve certain problems. To overcome anything, you need to decide how to deal with it. And first of all, a person should think with his own head, try to solve all the issues himself, which will allow him to show such a quality as determination, which, together with courage, helps to achieve any goals.

To be decisive, you need to take responsibility. Indecision suggests that a person is afraid of the consequences that may arise as a result of his actions. And fear arises on the basis of irresponsibility, when a person does not want to collide, understand, take anything.

Thus, courage and determination go hand in hand. To be decisive, you need to stop being afraid that consequences may arise, because of which a person will have to think with his own head, respond and do something.

It is increasingly difficult for a modern person to make his own decisions and follow them. This is facilitated by a large number of people who surround and are ready to help. Parents always try to court their child, even when he is already an adult and independent. Friends and loved ones also take on the role of helpers, trying to give advice or express their opinion in any situation. It has become much more difficult to be decisive because those who help you also demand that their opinions and advice be taken into account. Otherwise, you will face resentment or someone's detachment.

How can you become more decisive? How to overcome what society brings up so well in every person - infantilism and cowardice? You need to learn at least from making your own decisions in the little things. For example, go to a store and buy something that you personally like. Or decide to wake up an hour earlier every day than you once did. In any situation, try to listen to yourself and your desires and make decisions based only on them.

Undoubtedly, the people around you will begin to tell you something of their own, give advice, insist on something. But it is in your will not to listen to them. If you hear a recommendation that does not correspond to your desires and opinions, you have the right not to listen to it. Your life, and you must live it the way you personally want.

Learn to make your own decisions in the little things: buying something for yourself, leading your lifestyle, imagining what you want. Gradually, you will gain experience and begin to make decisions in more serious situations. And let someone not approve of him, condemn him, say “wrong”. All this is not the main thing for you now. Learn to make “your decision”, which will be independent of what other people tell you and how they evaluate it!

Determination appears where a person is ready to act independently and face any consequences, not to run away from them, not to shift responsibility to other people. Determination is the willingness to think with your own head and take responsibility.

How to become bolder, more decisive and more self-confident in the end?

On the way to the goal, there will always be difficulties and problems. Why? Because a person does not yet know how to act so that his goals are realized quickly. Otherwise, he would not have set himself the goal of what he already knows how to achieve easily and quickly. What a person already knows how to do does not require certain efforts from him. The goal is only that which requires effort, courage, determination and self-confidence.

To develop these qualities in yourself, you just need to start embodying your desires. It is necessary not only to dream of something, but also to start acting so that all dreams gradually become reality. It will take a lot of time and a lot of effort. Sometimes a person will give up and even think about how much he needs a goal in order to work on it like that. However, a person gives in only when he is faced with difficulties and troubles, which just require decisiveness, self-confidence and courage.

If a person does not give up and continues to go towards the goal, then he will show all the qualities. And if he passes, then he will once again prove to himself that he is weak, insecure and indecisive.

Learning to be courageous (if only to ask someone you like out on a date) means more than just letting go of being afraid. You must learn to act despite your own fears.

Steps

Part 1

Developing courage

Curb your fear. To become bold, you need to overcome your fears. Fear is a response to situations in which your brain decides whether to fight or flee. In this case, the brain begins to secrete nervous system the hormone cortisol, which causes stress, which puts the body under extreme stress. Fearfulness is a learned behavior based on the chemical processes of the body and reinforced by the outside world, which teaches a person to be afraid. The ability to overcome your fears and leave them behind comes down to a proper training in thinking.

1. Get rid of indecision. The longer your brain tries to justify your cowardice, the more time you will spend panicking about hypothetical negative outcomes of the situation. If you need to catch a spider, jump out of an airplane, ask someone out on a date, do it without hesitation, provided that you are really going to do it.

   • Once you've overcome your fear, reinforce your success with encouragement. This can be expressed both in material incentives (for example, in a bottle of good wine), and in non-material (for example, in the form of a pause taken from social communication and watching several episodes of your favorite TV show at once).

2. Show courage when asking someone out on a date. When you ask someone out on a date, it is best to speak directly, even if you are a little afraid of being so open. Rehearse your words ahead of time. If possible, talk to the person you like in private. Think about how good it would be to get consent. Isn't it just worth the risk?

   • Remember, if you are denied, it will not negatively affect you or other people's perception of you. Treat rejection with respect and be proud of your courage!

3. Show courage when talking to your boss. Sometimes it’s scary to talk to your boss, especially if you have problems at work, and it’s also very uncomfortable to start talking about finances. However, if you try to frame the conversation in the form of discussion, rather than in the form of confrontation, then you can wrap things up the way you want.

   • Ask for a personal conversation and plan ahead of time what you are going to say. It's normal to be nervous in this situation, so don't fight it. Just try to breathe normally and speak with conviction.
   • If the conversation arouses the anger of your superiors, back off and re-analyze the situation. If you believe your position is correct, consider involving your company's HR department to resolve the issue.
   • Sometimes a change of job may be the best alternative. Some people are extremely stubborn, and your decision not to fight in every looming battle does not mean that you lack courage.

4. Show courage in dealing with bullying. If you are dealing with bullying, you need to exude courage and confidence. This will deceive yourself (and others) by pretending that you are not afraid of anything. People who bully others like to be afraid of them, so don't give them that pleasure. Act confidently (even if you are not particularly confident).

   • If you continue to be bullied after you rebuffed them, seek help from teachers or parents. Knowing when to seek outside help is courageous in itself. This demonstrates your honesty with yourself about a realistic assessment of the situation.

Part 3

Overcoming your own fears

1. Identify your fears. What exactly are you afraid of? Before you begin to overcome fear and take bold actions, you need to understand what scares you? People can be afraid of many things, such as the following:

   • heights;
   • snakes and / or spiders;
   • crowds;
   • performances to the public;
   • water;
   • thunderstorms;
   • closed space.

2. Acknowledge your fears. After identifying fears, you should not try to hide them somewhere deeper, you should not avoid them. It is unwise to convince yourself that you are not afraid, so you will not be able to quickly overcome fear. Instead, try to acknowledge that you have fears so that you can overcome them in a productive way.

   • For example, you can admit your fears by writing them down on a piece of paper or by saying the confession out loud.
   • You can also assess the strength of each specific fear on a scale from 0 to 100 (from the complete absence of fear to a very strong manifestation of it).

3. Try to desensitize yourself gradually. This technique allows you to slowly but with increasing confidence get closer to what you fear.

   • For example, if you are afraid to leave the house, you can just start putting on your shoes as if you were going outside, but not going anywhere yet.
   • Then you can start to open the door and take a couple of steps from the threshold, then four steps, eight and return home again.

4. Try to get into direct confrontation with fear. This method is also called the "immersion" method. Force yourself into the situation you are afraid of, and allow yourself to fully experience the fear. Feel how it pulsates inside, watch it, but do not let it overpower you. You might find it helpful to start thinking of yourself in the third person, for example, "He looks like he is very scared right now."

   • Having resorted to this method in a situation where you are afraid to leave the house, you will have to go outside and move away from the house for a whole block on the first attempt. Then it will be necessary to analyze what happened in order to understand that being outside the four walls is not so bad.
   • Next, you need to repeat the procedure until you completely stop being afraid of the street.
   • The idea is to demonstrate to yourself that you shouldn't be afraid of your own actions. This method is especially effective in dealing with irrational fears.
   • Be careful when confronting bullies. For all conflict situations there is no one-size-fits-all solution, so sometimes it's best not to get involved.

Each of us has had to face fear. There are different life situationswhen we are afraid to go forward, do something, change in our life and stop in anticipation of imminent disaster. What does it mean to be bold? Courage is not the absence of fear, as it is a normal human emotion. Courage is the ability to control, restrain, overcome it. A brave person, looking straight into the eyes of his fear, persistently continues to go forward, rather than looking for ways to escape. As a rule, such people achieve much more in life. Can't brag that you are a brave person? Never mind, a few tips from professional psychologists will help you gain the upper hand on this weakness and teach you how to win.

Characteristics of a brave person

Still have little idea of \u200b\u200bwhat a brave person is? Then it will be useful for you to know its characteristics.

He knows how to soberly assess the situation and control his emotions, while maintaining complete composure.
A brave person is always calm, he is always confident in himself, he knows what he can achieve, and goes straight to his goal.
A brave person knows how to take responsibility for his actions and decisions. It was the courageous people who became the best rulers, commanders, military men and politicians.
A daredevil is always ready to defend his life, family, state.

A brave person knows how to always make the right decisions, regardless of whether he is overwhelmed by fear.

What are the benefits of being bold?

Still wondering if you can become a brave person? Just think how many advantages over your competitors and enemies you will receive by acquiring this human quality!

Courage will give you complete confidence in your strengths and capabilities.
Courage will give you hope for a better, brighter future.
Courage will give you independence from other people's opinions.
Courage will free you from oppressive and consuming fear.

Courage will give you freedom of choice and the ability to always be yourself.

What do you need to do to become bold?

It is not easy to develop courage in yourself, but start being courageous right now and confidently go towards your goal, no matter how hard it may be for you. And a few useful recommendations of psychologists will help you go through this difficult path and achieve your goal.

The psychological attitude is very, very important. Therefore, try to tune in to what you have to go through very a long way, but you will definitely master it and achieve your goal. Do not underestimate the power of thoughts - every step you take under the influence of the right attitude will be much more successful and effective. In addition, the attitude will make it much easier for you to work on yourself.

Do you think that this is impossible to do? You are wrong. For starters, stop caring about how others evaluate you and stop evaluating yourself. Do not listen to advice, do not remember your past failures - in front of you is only the future, which does not in any way depend on past mistakes. This is your chance to get it right - take it. Why empty doubts? After all, you can only test your abilities empirically... You are no worse than the others - if someone succeeds, then, of course, you will succeed. Believe in yourself!

It is difficult to face fear, but without it you will never learn courage. Each overcome fear will make you a little bolder and stronger. Don't avoid your fears. Let's say you are afraid of flying an airplane. Of course, you have the option of going somewhere by train or car, but the plane is much faster and more comfortable. Do not avoid flying, but, on the contrary, strive for it. After a while, the fear will weaken, and then disappear completely.

Courage does not mean invincibility yet. Do not be afraid to make another mistake - people learn from mistakes, become smarter, stronger and bolder. Learn to admit and accept your failures. This time you lost, but next time you will definitely win.

Communication helps us to get rid of complexes and fears, overcome shyness and become much more sociable. And these qualities are directly related to courage. Therefore, feel free to make new acquaintances, make new friends, communicate more and be alone less often.

Every time you have managed to overcome your fear, you are worthy of praise. Let each successive, even the smallest, victory remain in your memory, as another battle won with your fear. Be sure to praise yourself - you will have an increase in self-esteem and an incentive to continue working to combat your fears.

The new and the unknown always causes fear, so you need to look for all possible ways in order to diversify your life. For example, are you afraid to drive? Go study law, make your first long move, explore new areas of activity and entertainment. Each new business gives you a little courage.

Have you heard such expressions - "luck loves the brave" and "who does not take risks, then does not drink champagne." That's right - risk is a great way to gain courage, but this does not mean that you have to do crazy things, putting on the line everything you have - family, freedom, fortune. Every risk must be justified. Weigh everything and take risks!

These little tips will help you gradually overcome your weaknesses and become a little bolder and more courageous. Each step you take will bring you closer to your goal. Most importantly, do not give up and go to the bitter end.

Very often, our cowardice spoils our life, we lose many opportunities, suffer about what you did not do, because of fear of failure or ridicule.

This is the whole essence of human nature - to postpone an unpleasant choice for us as far as possible. Unfortunately, the tactic of waiting only increases our fear. Everything has a price. Each time we postpone an important conversation, we make it more and more frightening for our imagination due to the fact that we have more time to worry. This is how some phobias are formed. Ultimately, all these postponed tasks snowball down on important areas of our life, for example, on a relationship or career. Moreover, over time, such a habit of drifting away leads to a decrease in stress resistance, which is precisely what is formed from overcoming such small life challenges.

All we need is to develop a kind of impulse that will force us to immediately rush into the pool headlong and instantly resolve an unpleasant issue. So that the main task - to maximize the chances of action and minimize the chances of fear.

1. Long thoughts - the first step to getting chicken out

The worst thing in this situation is to be rejected. But the fact is, courage and determination also have their own shelf life. So if you decide to have a serious conversation, for example, just talk. No need to wait for the right moment, do it now.

2. Focus on overcoming yourself

First, decide on the content of the conversation and on the result you want to come to in the end. Then decide what is the first phrase you will say. Many people simply cannot decide to start a conversation for weeks. The hardest part is getting started. It will be easier further.

3. Do a similar action in a less frightening environment.

For example, if you have little experience in public speaking and have a big speech in front of an audience, practice in a less formal setting. Talk to a random passer-by, asking him for directions. Do the same several times. Try reading a passage from your favorite work in front of your family. Noticing their interest, you very soon want to add expressiveness and emotion. You need to instill that people listen to you, interact with you. After that, you will enter the stage as a person who knows how to hold the audience's attention.

4. Think about the consequences

On the positive, of course. Reflect on how much freedom you will finally feel after dealing with an unpleasant business. It's like exams: I passed it once, and then the whole summer is ahead.

5. Think about prospects

This is especially true of parting with something old. For example, you may find it difficult to end a relationship that simply continues by inertia. Yes, change takes up a lot of internal resources, but it still brings the long-awaited freedom and relief.

6. Set a deadline

An important conversation should be like a trip to the doctor: precisely prescribed and absolutely inevitable. The specific date for your conversation will make you finally decide on it.

7. Take action with someone

You need support to decide on something that you have been afraid of for a long time. So do not hesitate to ask your friends and loved ones to come to your lecture, where you will give a presentation. There are many people who do not dare to start something just because of the lack of support. They cannot decide to come to the gym or see a psychologist. Don't be among them.

Of course, there are naturally brave people, and there are timid people, but this does not mean that your courage or timidity is unchanged. Work on yourself, communicate more, and over time you will become who you want to be.