It is said that for love, separation carries the same risk as the wind is for fire; she extinguishes the small one, and only inflates the big one and makes it stronger.
Close contact, mutual sympathy and attraction naturally imply the desire to be together all the time.
Alas, life is an insidious thing, sometimes making trips and more often than necessary offering tests for love. So, does love exist at a distance, how long does it live and can you believe it ?!
Reasons for parting
Maybe you were offered a prestigious job in another city, and your soul mate can't instantly get under way and say goodbye to the "old" office?
Or maybe you have a long and very important business trip to another country? A solo cruise at a bargain price?
The reasons may be less rosy. For example, the forced care of a sick relative, the need to go to work. Most often, feelings are checked by separation during the army.
Methods for keeping love at a distance:
- Declaration of love in poetic forms by SMS or letters.
- Constant calls and long conversations in the evenings.
- The Internet and its possibilities of communication via ICQ or Skype.
- Ordering gifts in the online store, from where they will deliver a surprise right to the doorstep of your loved one.
What is the main problem?
The main disadvantages at this time are the impossibility of personal communication and the unclearness of their own marital status. After all, there is a second half, but it is not nearby. There is no one with whom to go to an interesting party, visit a fashionable restaurant, even have to fall asleep alone.
Communication mainly takes place via telephone, Internet or good old mail correspondence. But is love possible on the Internet and at a distance? Rare meetings are perceived as a gift from heaven.
The risk of flirting on the side, the appearance of new friends and fans increases. Can you feel love at a distance and remain faithful?
The illusion of loneliness
If your partner is not around for a long time, then how can you resist the temptation to attend social events? The answer is simple, no way.
Remember, you are not a loner!
The remoteness of the second half is not a reason to lead a reclusive lifestyle, which is what ladies often sin when they remain in the role of the Decembrist's wife. You are not a loner, but a girl who has made her own free and balanced choice.
Do not put the question bluntly!
If the absence of a loved one next to you is torture and a cross on yourself, then whether there is love at a distance is a matter with you.
Perhaps you simply overestimated the depth of your feelings and the test is too unbearable for you.
This is not a reproach at all, but a statement of fact.
Alone, you can weigh your position and assess it.
There is a risk of starting to blame the partner for the forced separation. This may indicate a weakness of the feeling.
Are you annoyed with a person or a circumstance? Do you want to change the situation and give up your loner status? Are you burdened by a distant beloved? Alas, there is no smell of love here.
With or without him?
There are no holy people, so bitter feelings visit everyone from time to time. There is a temptation to quarrel, express your dissatisfaction and reproach your partner for something.
But the loved one remains so even at a distance. Even if it’s hard with him, it’s worse without him, which means that reconciliation is inevitable.
The second side of the illusion of loneliness presents the opportunity to begin to idealize the partner and the relationship itself. Past meetings seem like a dream, touching is bliss, and the meeting will end up being a cruel disappointment.
On a note!
They say that without separation it is impossible to fully comprehend love, because love tempered, in trials much stronger than the weak and fragile that did not know expectation and sadness, such love crumbles to pieces like a house of cards from the slightest breath of breeze.
Sharp moments
There is even a special list of nuances that change relationships most of all, passing the test of distance:
- Lack of sex... The lack of an intimate relationship, the inability to make love with your partner, which theoretically exists, but is practically absent, is very difficult to endure. This is often the reason for cheating in a relationship.
- The second difficulty is inability to talk... The outgoing partner changes, acquires new acquaintances and affections.
It is easier for him to adapt to the world around him, since there are fewer connections with the "past" life. The partner who remains to wait is more worried, since he connects many moments with his beloved and maintains the illusion of an unchanging relationship. - The third point is changing priorities and goals, at the same time the character also changes. For example, the situation with a guy leaving for the army.
He is constantly busy, finds many acquaintances with similar problems, the communication style is undergoing changes, and the girl cannot get used to it. The hardest part comes just at the end of the separation, when the couple is waiting for a meeting and inevitably thinks about all those surprises that she is preparing.
Believe and feel love
The most correct way to assess the situation is being inside it.
After all, believing in love has always been fashionable.
Romantic guys are always valued by girls, and romantic girls are classics of attractiveness.
A person does not live without love, but exists, therefore he reaches out for feelings, seeks them and idealizes. Having found himself in a problematic and tragic situation, a person most often changes his point of view and literally descends from heaven to earth.
Stubborn facts
According to statistics, a separation of two years or less is relatively easy to endure, especially now, when video communication, phone sex and joint weekends with flights are available.
But after two years of a long-distance relationship, the calls become less common, so there are less and less common. Waiting runs the risk of developing into severe depression.
Withdrawal occurs due to the fact that you want to share everyday joys and sorrows with those who are nearby. Rare meetings, however, I want to make a holiday, and this removes true intimacy from the relationship.
You can continue to believe in love and even feel it, but you will inevitably have to admit the fact that there is less passion and soulfulness in a relationship. Women suffer more acutely, as they need more tenderness and daily care.
To answer the question - is there love at a distance, you need to continue to feel love and you will have to make a lot of mutual efforts. This is the only way to continue the relationship.
So it turns out that love at a distance turns into the work of two people, it must be nurtured and cherished, like a baby, so that it grows into a serious, adult and vivid feeling.
How many years does love live?
Oh, how many answers to this question - is it possible to love at a distance psychologists and philosophers gave advice!
But they agree only that they do not give love much time.
Someone says that love lives for three years.
Others note the crisis of three and five years of marriage, when the bonds of love weaken and the risk of separation increases. Many people remember the famous saying about a pound of salt eaten for two.
According to simple calculations, a couple will be able to eat such weight in two years, which means that love that has existed for so long will live longer. The true lifespan of a feeling at a distance can only be judged by a pair.
- The period of "chemistry" - this is the birth of passion and mutual desire, which is accompanied by increased work of the endocrine glands and chemical reactions in the body.
For physiological reasons, this period lasts no more than one and a half years, and then the body returns to normal. In other words, this is a period of lust, sexuality, and greedy possession.
Alas, this feeling can hardly be called love. It will not survive for a long time. - Real love is the fruit working together, backed by trust, mutual respect and tenderness. Here the feeling of ownership, selfishness and consumer attitude towards a person are left behind.
By the way, jealousy at this stage most often fades into the background. The term of such love is difficult to name with accuracy, because it depends on the partners themselves, and not on the reactions in their bodies. So you can name the period from 2 years or longer.
Online feeling
So, to prolong the life of love, you will have to work on it with the help of available means. Today the Internet connection is very helpful.
- Write letters by email... Despite the rapid steps of progress and the computer revolution in the world, we are still pleased to receive letters from a loved one. Moreover, the best paper, written in the native handwriting.
So you can see where the hand is tired, where the thoughts are confused. But e-mails are no less pleasant to receive. So write, let there be just a line with a wish for a good day, but this is a pleasant moment for the mood for the day. - Exchange sms... Many pleasant or annoying events happen throughout the day. Share them with your loved one, ask his opinion and offer your advice in his affairs. It will bring you closer.
- Exploit video communication... Now the choice is not limited to Skype, so equip your computer, phone and other gadgets with the necessary settings. Nothing invigorates and soothes like a conversation with a loved one and his smile.
Love at a distance is primarily a test that not every couple passes.
Sometimes the situation is not saved by the abundance of electronic gadgets and the presence of a tight wallet.
But psychologists treat the topic of separation philosophically and do not consider it a tragedy.
Distance teaches us to maintain and care for relationships. You have to work every day, look for time for communication and appreciate the minutes.
On practice
The result of a study by scientists at Cornell University is surprising: they found that couples who live in separation consider their relationship to be stronger than 63% of couples who share the same living space.
Feelings are tested in practice!
The decision to leave the beloved at least for a while speaks of the seriousness of plans for a joint future, of the desire to support him. True, psychologists are reminded to determine priorities for themselves before making sacrifices.
Do you want to go back to your old partner? Isn't he an obstacle for you?
Experts are skeptical about teenagers' assurances of eternal love and strongly advise against making loud promises before parting, which is what girls and boys sin in front of the same army. If the feeling is real, then it does not require words, but will be proved by deeds.
You can find additional information on this topic in the section.
They say love at a distance is impossible.
The sun is also far away ... but still, it is warm! (@)
There are kilometers between us again -
Do not cast a glance, do not reach with your hand.
And only my words fly in the wind
To tell you about the main thing.
Let everything not be as longed for, it comes out,
But I will not blame fate.
The star is burning in the night in the sky,
Giving lines of warm grace.
As long as there is ink and paper,
And the tenderness of feelings overwhelms the chest,
I will recreate my love from the dust
To breathe immortality into it.
17.08.15
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The fact that love at a distance really exists is evidenced by the correspondence between great people. Among them are the great French novelist Honoré de Balzac and his beloved Evelina Ganskaya, the famous English playwright George Bernard Shaw and the brilliant actress Stella Patrick Campbell, the great Russian poets Marina Ivanovna Tsvetaeva and Boris Leonidovich Pasternak. There are many other examples.
Love and modern technology
Today they come to the aid of lovers modern technologies... They can correspond on social networks, exchange gentle SMS messages, talk for hours on a mobile phone. If you live without seeing each other, it becomes already impossible, a fast plane will transfer you to your beloved in a short time.Sometimes love arises from a distance from the very beginning. People get to know each other on the Internet, plunge headlong into romance, think that they have managed to find their ideal. However, in such a relationship, there is a danger of mistaking for true love only the dream of it. In addition, on the Internet, people often pass themselves off as who they really are. As a result, meeting in real life can only bring bitter disappointment. There is also a risk of becoming a victim of a maniac or a marriage swindler.
However, remote love can have its benefits. If a person is lonely and not sure of himself, even virtual relationships will become for him a salvation from emptiness and loneliness, a source of positive emotions. The main thing is not to play too much and not to confuse the real world with the invented one.
Love and separation
If feelings have arisen in real life, and people truly love each other, long separation turns into a difficult test for them. In addition, uninvited thoughts about the possible betrayal of a loved one begin to come to mind. There is no need to torment your chosen one with constant checks: often mistrust kills even the strongest love. However, leaving your loved one completely unattended is also not worth it. You can always find a way of communication that will become convenient and comfortable for both. True love is not afraid of any obstacles and distances. Separation can even strengthen her, making her appreciate every moment she spends with her loved one. The main thing is that it does not drag on for many years. After all, the habit of constantly being at a distance from each other can cool even the strongest and most sincere feelings.Sometimes it happens that a loved one is far away. Family circumstances, work, waiting for a visa - all this can be a temporary obstacle to the reunion of two people in love. But in any case, acting is better than being longing for separation.
You will need
- paper, pen, glue, old magazines, camera, camcorder, mobile phone, computer with Internet access.
Instructions
If the beloved is far away, if he does not return tomorrow and you have some free time, it is worth using it to the benefit of yourself and your relationship. Often, separation is beneficial, because if you channel energy in a positive direction, life is filled with new meanings. The main thing is a creative approach to business.
Stay in touch. If your loved one has a way out, you can send him messages every day. But alas, text messages can get boring, since in fact there will be one: "I love. I miss you. I'm waiting." You can call on the help of the classics. The most successful ones on a love theme can be found in Shakespeare's sonnets, in Pushkin's poetry, in romantics. Great ones will express your thoughts most accurately. Alternatively, send your loved one pictures of the places you have been. Choose the most suitable angles and subjects for shooting. Do not send your own photos often. Moderation in this will help you maintain balance and increase your joy.
Get creative. The energy released through separation from a loved one can be directed in a positive direction: now is the time to start learning foreign language, sign up for a belly dance, embroider a scarf or even make repairs. The most important thing is to feel what exactly will help you spend your time with benefit and present the result to your beloved. Any man will be surprised by a warm cherry pie, a beautiful song with a guitar or a colorful collage "Scenes from Our Lives" on the wall.
Spend time with family and friends. Now a moment has come in your life when you can remember your friends with whom you have long been going to meet. A visit to your parents, sister or beloved teacher should not be postponed for long either. In private, it can be easier to have a heart-to-heart talk, fool around, discuss personal problems that can tire your friend if he is around.
Be alone with yourself. Finally, organize a holiday for yourself: go to a beauty salon, to a concert, take a walk in the woods. Finally, meet your loved one with new strength and old strong feelings!
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Be guided by the situation, treat your separation creatively, invent your personal traditions and surprises. Surprise!
You can send a letter by mail. The paper message is always a priority: since the Middle Ages, lovers exchanged messages through pigeon mail, through messengers, etc.
Sources:
- Aphorisms about love
Few believe in love at a distance. This skepticism is fueled by personal experience, observation of the relationships of acquaintances, and other examples. However, life practice says something else: there are couples who saved love during the period of separation, despite the distance of thousands of kilometers. What is their secret?
Instructions
Due to certain life circumstances (army, study, work, business trip, etc.), one has to be separated from people for some time. If the course of events cannot be changed, you should simply accept the situation and see the positive aspects in it.
Communicate. Fortunately, we are not in the Middle Ages, we have at our disposal mobile phones, the Internet ( social networks, skype, ICQ, etc.). Share with your loved one the main events of each day. Don't forget to say good night and good morning.
Be positive, do not let jealousy take over your thoughts, do not try to control your loved one (or loved one), but participate in his (or her) life.
Surround yourself with things (photos, souvenirs, discs with your common favorite songs, etc.) that would constantly remind you of a person dear to you. Write each other real letters (by mail). This is romantic, and besides, in the letter you can say that in a personal meeting you often do not dare.
Give gifts. Simply, for no reason. Everyone loves pleasant surprises. Let you have a perfume that your loved one knows. When he hears a familiar scent, the associations themselves will lead him to your image.
Take every opportunity to meet. Think about your loved one more often. People are endowed with the ability to feel a close soul on distance.
If suddenly doubts about further destiny relationship, support your loved one.
May the belief that you will overcome temporary separation do not leave you, and the expectation will be rewarded with a meeting.
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Folk wisdom says that love is tested by distance. Take this phrase and prove that your feelings will pass this test perfectly and will be an example for other couples.
Many people, especially at a young age, do not know how to distinguish love from falling in love. Love is a deep, powerful feeling based on emotional attachment and sexual attraction. Falling in love is euphoric, but short-term, and does not always give rise to long-term relationships. How to understand whether you love a person or just feel a feeling of love for him?
Instructions
Analyze the feelings and emotions you are experiencing. At first it will be quite difficult to do this, because he is overwhelmed with violent positive emotions, he is in a state of euphoria, which can be abruptly replaced by melancholy, if the feelings are not mutual, or something does not go as he wants.
Soberly assess where your partner's happiness and convenience are. A person in love most often thinks about himself, about what is good for him with his beloved, but bad for one. Real strong feelings, unlike falling in love, make you think first of all about the happiness, convenience, well-being of your loved one.
Notice how you behave if your partner is having difficulties and problems. Are you always ready to help him by postponing important matters for later? A person in love is sometimes selfish. His euphoria is noticeably reduced when problems arise, or a loved one needs help. Love is tested by trials, difficulties, problems through which partners go together.
Distance and time are excellent means of your senses. This does not mean that you should stop communicating with the object of your feelings for no reason. But if a situation arises that he or you need to go far away for a while, do not be sad. Know that true love will withstand any separation, and if feelings are superficial, then sooner or later they will subside even with frequent meetings.
Think about the sincerity of your feelings if you are overwhelmed by too violent emotions. This is especially true for young people. Sometimes it happens that, being rejected, young men and women fall into severe depression and even think about suicide. The reason for this is not unhappy love at all, but contrived love, similar to intoxication. One does not die for the sake of true love; one lives for it.
Try to look for flaws in your loved one. Even if you do not see them, they are still there, just like other people. Ask a loved one to help you in this matter. Falling in love is characterized by the fact that you don't see your partner's flaws. If you notice the negative traits of the other half, but are willing to put up with them and help correct them, then this indicates that you are experiencing stronger feelings.
Do not forget that love is not a feeling that you don't have to work on. Love must be protected and preserved, improving relations with a dear person. Love can be compared to working on yourself and on your feelings. If you are ready to connect your life with your beloved forever, accepting and respecting not only him, but also his relatives, his hobbies and hobbies, his merits and demerits, then we can congratulate you, you are experiencing a deep, strong and a feeling that ennobles the soul.
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How to understand whether a man loves you or not? A man and a woman met, began to meet - this is a beautiful, full of romance period when a man gives gifts and flowers, organizes trips to the cinema and theaters, invites you to dinner in a cozy cafe, etc. And now the courtship period ends, the man and woman understand that they love each other and decide to live together.
Helpful advice
How to understand that you are loved? The surest way to know this is to hear sincere confessions. Fortune telling on chamomile, cards, candles, mirrors, and other mystical rituals are uninformative methods in this regard. So until the moment of recognition, you will have to endure a little agonizing uncertainty. You can make assumptions - he loves it or not, but knowing for sure will not work.
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- how to understand whether a guy loved me or not
Tip 5: How to say love without saying love in 2017
Love is without a doubt a wonderful feeling. However, confessing love, especially to a young and impressionable, can sometimes be very difficult. And this applies equally to both girls and boys. How can you say about love without saying the word "love"?
Instructions
Much better than words, actions speak about feelings. Support the object of your sympathy in difficult situations, show signs of attention. Give your loved one only positive emotions so that he feels your location and knows that you will always listen to him and help.
Give a valentine. A small postcard will tell you very clearly about your feelings. And you don't have to wait for Valentine's Day for a gift! In addition to a valentine, you can give any souvenir that is also associated with tender feelings, for example, kissing doves.
Kiss your loved one. Best of all, of course, if it happens in a romantic setting. And the easiest way to do this is if it is customary in your company to accompany a greeting. In this case, you need to turn the friendly into romantic or passionate.
Give compliments. Sincere admiration for a person is impossible not to feel, and the object of adoration will quickly guess about your love.
Surprise your loved one. It can be a gift, an invitation to a romantic evening, a movie ticket to a movie that he has long wanted to see. Such care will surely touch your beloved.
Present flowers. The language of flowers is ideal for a declaration of love without words. And do not worry that the beloved does not know this language - most people understand it intuitively. Red flowers will tell about love and passion. If a girl cannot give flowers to her lover, she should decorate her hair or dress with them before meeting.
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Naturally, all these actions should be unobtrusive and delicate, otherwise the loved one can only be pushed away.
Often partners have to leave for various reasons from a loved one to another city, another country and live far away. In order to maintain your love when he is not around, you need to be patient, learn to trust. Only strong love will withstand such a test, and time will put everything in its place.
Instructions
If your loved one needs to leave for a while, don't be discouraged. A short separation usually only strengthens the relationship. Keep in touch with your partner, but don't overdo it. Excessive control can be harmful. Put yourself in his place. Imagine if it would be pleasant for you to hear jealousy scenes on the phone. Your frequent calls may just bore your loved one, and he will decide to part with you. Everything should be in moderation. Therefore, control your emotions and actions.
Consider that love is possible. This is how many couples test their relationship. But a long separation can also harm partners, since people lose the habit of each other, they have new acquaintances, interests. And a loved one is a thing of the past.
Try to trust each other. This is the foundation of the relationship between a man and a woman. A month or two of separation strengthens the love. After such a rest, as a rule, the meeting is very warm, passion flares up, and the partners understand how bad they felt without a loved one.
If you understand that you cannot live without your partner, keep in mind that they do not love a person, but often an image created in your imagination. Many disadvantages are smoothed out, and the merits are exaggerated. You can only make the right decision when you meet with your partner after separation.
If in separation you realized that you do not need the person with whom you have been all this time, do not rush to part. Try to keep the love you've been building for two, three years. Patience, respect, mutual understanding will help you. Know how to wait, because relationships are tested with time. If you've truly become a stranger, don't be afraid to change your life. Learn to see only the good in change. Leave the bad in the past, look to a better future. Strong people will be able to overcome any difficulties.
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Previously, people who love each other met every day, went on dates, organized joint walks and entertainment. Now the situation has changed a little, since such a concept as "love at a distance" has appeared in the world.
The possibility of a relationship between two people who are far from each other has appeared since the advent of mobile phones, computers and other means of communication. Even if there are thousands of kilometers between you, you can easily contact your loved one, write him a message on the Internet, make a phone call or establish a Skype connection. Imagine those distant times when none of this was. People left for other cities, wrote ordinary letters to each other, which are now no one. Progress has gone too far and this kind of romance has become obsolete. She was replaced by SMS, calls, correspondence, songs and short poems that can be found on some Internet resources.
Love at a distance has become a fairly frequent occurrence, since sometimes people leave to study in other cities, the guys leave to serve. Lovers always hope that time will passand they can be next to each other.
Social networks have become another reason for love at a distance. People from different cities get to know each other, begin to communicate. They have never seen each other, but they have already managed to love not their appearance, but their soul. They save themselves with daily calls and correspondence, exchange photographs and wait for the moment when the distance between them will be reduced.
Some people believe that such love is impossible, because one (if not both) will definitely change, because it is difficult to live without intimate relationships. But even from a similar situation, the lovers were able to find a way out, which became virtual sex.
It doesn't matter if your significant other is nearby or not, the most important thing is that there are real feelings between you. Remember that no kilometers are afraid of love.
Sometimes there are people who have love relationships exclusively with partners from other cities. They rarely meet with their beloved, communicate mainly by correspondence or by phone. What about the personality of the person who prefers such a relationship?
AT recent times cases when people began to have love relationships with partners from other cities became more frequent. This is facilitated by the development of means of communication, mainly the Internet. Numerous portals and dating sites allow potential lovers from different cities to meet. Only 20-30 years ago, such cases were quite rare.
There are people whose love partners appear mostly only in other cities. They themselves explain this by chance. If you look closely at such cases, you can come to interesting conclusions.
Our seeker (it doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman) starts a relationship in another city for several possible reasons:
1. Unwillingness to take responsibility for the relationship.
Nonresident relations are characterized by the fact that, in many cases, it is difficult for such people to connect their destinies due to the inability to live in one place. Each person is attached to his city, his job, his relatives and friends. This can be a convenient excuse to keep your partner at a distance and not enter into a serious, commitment-related relationship, i.e. marriage. Such people may complain that circumstances do not allow them to connect, but deep down they got exactly what they wanted.
2. Fear of relationships.
Sometimes people are very afraid to enter into new deep relationships, for example, due to previous negative love experiences. In this case, they prefer distance communication.
3. Desire to manage your time independently.
Long-distance relationships allow you to always or almost always be the master of your time and not be accountable to anyone in your actions. If there is no legal half next to you, you can go to the club at any time, go to your friends, etc.
4. Unwillingness to invest effort and money in the development of relationships.
Having a partner in another city can significantly reduce material costs (gifts, flowers, going to the cinema, etc.) and the efforts made in the mainstream of caring for another person. This is usually typical for an infantile person who is not ready to invest strength and energy in a permanent relationship. It is easier for such people to communicate or on the phone, to emotionally support a partner and express their feelings, than to help solve any problem in real life.
Sometimes only the awareness of the reasons can change the situation, in other cases the consultation of a psychologist and deep introspection will help.
Sometimes a man and a woman break up due to a lack of understanding between them. If you want to carry your love through time and strengthen your relationship with your loved one, try to find out what is in his soul, how he lives and what he wants from life.
Do not rush to condemn your loved one for some kind of offense. Try to imagine yourself in his place. This psychological technique brand new, but very effective. It helps you be more lenient with other people's mistakes. Sometimes it doesn't hurt to think about how you look from the outside, and how your partner or partner may react to your actions and words. Try to become imbued with the goals and objectives of your loved one.
Have a common hobby. Being infatuated with each other will help you grow closer and get to know each other better, and this is a serious step towards mutual understanding. Even when choosing a way to spend your free time, you can learn more about the tastes and preferences of a loved one. You can also spend your vacation together. A period during which you spend most of your time together and not distracted by work and household chores will help you better understand each other.
Each evening, share the emotions and experiences that the past day brought with you. Introduce the tradition of talking heart to heart and telling each other what made you happy today and what upset you. Just don't push your partner or partner. If your loved one is worried about something, but is not yet ready to share with you, just sympathize, pay attention to him, without asking about anything. Respect the feelings of a loved one and do not pressure him. The time will come, and he himself will tell about everything.
Show tolerance and respect towards other people. If your loved one sees that you are very categorical, negative about the mistakes of others, capable of harsh criticism and condemnation, he is unlikely to trust you during a difficult period of his life. Therefore, you should be kinder and softer to other people. Then the people around you are more likely to open up to meet you, including your partner or partner.
Principle 1. Signs of attention
A man who is in love tries to give the maximum amount of attention to a woman. There may be a different number of signs, but they are necessarily noticeable and very eloquent. If a man speaks to only one woman constantly compliments, gives her a smile and shows concern, he is definitely in love. Sometimes men exhibit not only romantic behavior, but also quite the opposite. At the same time, a woman should not think that a man is aggressive, he simply does not know how to do otherwise. Much about sympathy for a woman, his gifts tell about a man. They are usually memorable, although they are not large.
Principle 2. Frequent letters and telephone calls
If a man suddenly starts calling often or writes a lot of letters, sms, you can also be sure that he is in love. Usually the reasons for calls and letters are far-fetched and very insignificant, but the man cannot resist. Many letters are usually also written in poetry or simply romantic phrases.
Principle 3. Spending time together
A man who loves tries to devote all his time to a woman. He agrees to walk her home, escort her shopping and carry her bags. He also chooses a woman's company to the detriment of friendly beer gatherings. A man can appear where he was not before more and more, which also indicates his feelings. Oddly enough, but if a man diligently began to avoid the company of a woman, although he had not done this before, it means that he had feelings for her.
Principle 4. Compliance is manifested
If a man prefers to please a woman in everything and practically agrees on everything, does not argue, then he is probably in love with her and does not want to upset her.
Principle 5. Avoid quarrels
A man will not quarrel with his beloved woman, therefore, if he has feelings, he will avoid all possible conflicts.
Principle 6. Seeks to Help in Everything
When a man loves a woman, he will try in every possible way to solve all her problems, help her in any little things, support and empathize. The signs that speak of a man's love are almost identical, with the only exception that they will try not to remember family life. Falling in love with another Probably the most unpleasant situation can be the one in which a woman needs to understand whether a man has feelings for another. In such cases, the man's behavior changes dramatically. He shows more aggression, coldness, more and more often reproaches. He tries to look much better than before, and hides the phone, changes the passwords on the mailbox.