Many versions exist about the first impression. Is it important if it is possible to change it. This is told in the article.
- The way we appreciate people, our subjective opinion about them, and depends on what our own. As a rule, we see in people those traits that are in ourselves. At the same time, it is usually some negative qualities: envy, anger, laziness, a narrative. That is, if there is, for example, anger in large quantities, then it will also be considered evil, cruel, aggressive
- If a person often deceives other people, or dreams to be deceived, he will seem to him that all people around want him in turn "inflated." If a person himself hurts with himself and others, he never will come to mind that he can be frown somewhere. The point is not in naivety. Very often, such people are not good at all and do not live in "pink glasses", but they cannot foresee cases when they enjoy or deceive
- This is due to the fact that we interpret the behavior of a person regarding their own behavior. In other words, our subconscious (or unconscious) always asks itself: "How would I do?". And from other people we are waiting for the same actions that could do themselves
What criteria do the person estimated first?
People evaluate each other in the following parameters:
- appearance
- level of education, availability of diplomas, certificates
- mental capacity
- material state
- behavior in society and a circle of communication
- character (strong / weaknesses)
This is a brief list. It contains the main factors of human estimation by a person. Of course, it is now customary to prepare that the appearance is not the main thing, but scientifically proven that the first impression on a person produces the appearance of the interlocutor.
Some people first of all pay attention to some separate features. It can be hair, a nose shape, shoes, lipstick color, even the form of eyebrows plays a role. Forgive people perceive the whole image immediately.
- The first in order to understand, whether they do not like them, is enough just a second look at the fact that they are paramount (hair, nails, shoes, jacket). After that they usually become clear how communication will happen further, and whether it will be at all
- People who can perceive the image is much easier. For example, a person can have a nonideal nose shape, but a pure istelated clothing from the last collection of fashion designer. Most likely, the impression of such a person will produce extremely positive
- There is a small percentage of people who have no definite impression until they personally communicate with a person. It does not matter how a person looks like his hair color, what he is dressed. For him, its intellectual abilities or character. But, people of this type are enough to talk with a person for 5 minutes to understand who in front of him
- The person is inclined to judge other people, focusing on someone else's opinion. Someone said something to someone, here's a new opinion. So it turns out that not knowing the person, we already hate it or adore
- Many people appreciate a person in voting. In their opinion, in the voice of a person all his life path and character
Are the person in appearance?
- As already mentioned above, some people tend to evaluate other people exclusively in appearance, not attacked by his problems and intellectual possibilities.
- Unfortunately for such people, the image of a person can change very much during the day. For example, in the morning, the woman walks around the house disheveled, with a circle of coffee and an elongated T-shirt. If at that moment a neighbor is seen at that moment, this woman will consider this woman and will experience disgust for it
- But in an hour, the woman puts himself in order, puts on beautiful shoes, an office suit, consisting of a fitted jacket and a pencil skirt, removes the hair into a neat hairstyle, makes a strict makeup. The same neighbor, seeing such a woman, thinks that she is a real bitch with a snake moral, cold and calculating
- In the evening, the woman returns from work, puts the luxurious short dress, dissolves curls, makes a bright makeup and goes to the club. This time the neighbor thinks that his neighbor is too vulgar and superficial
- And if instead of the club, a woman goes on a date and puts on a more closed dress, put his hair into a less lush hairstyle, will make not such a bright makeup, then the neighbor will tell that she sys with her wealth on the whole world or is looking for a rich satellite that usually she is groaning bitch, and now enthusiastically for the case
From this example, it is very easy to conclude that the appearance of a person is judged very often and very often. However, the truth is hardly the relationship.
The first impression of a person
- There is an opinion that the first impression of a person is the right one. But is it
- From the examples previously in the article, it is clear that people judge about each other not always objectively. Therefore, it makes sense to be upset, if in the first minute dating a man, you didn't like it, there is no special
- A certain part of people can easily be able to change their impression for a few hours, and even days, dating
Appearance and first impression
- Do not miss the opportunity to produce a good first impression using the appearance. It is clear that every person has their own tastes, addiction. Like everyone in principle is impossible
- Nevertheless, to form a good opinion about himself at the first acquaintance, it is enough to "join" in the team if the acquaintance occurs immediately with the group of people. It is useful to know what these people are enjoyed to show them their interest in their activities. Your appearance should also meet a shared style.
- If you get acquainted with a person 1 to 1, do not put pressure on it and show your "I". Yes, even your appearance can shout: "Look at me! I'm the main thing here! " There is nothing better than natural
The first impression of a man
To make a positive first impression on a man quite simply contrary to public opinion. 
First of all, men pay attention to:
- figure, especially on the "Rear View"
- manera Communication
- posture
- hair
- nails. Very long or dirty nails scare men
- clothes
To make a good impression on a man, not necessarily jumping near him with hours. It is enough to be immediate and natural in dealing with it. Do not be vulgar and too rude. Men is useful to forgive help in some situations, even if it is not very necessary for you. But you should not ask them to calculate the cost of products for you, for example. You will set yourself stupid.
Many men do not like very bright colors in clothes and makeup. It causes them the corresponding associations. But well-groomed and femininity like the overwhelming majority of men.
Change the first impression of a man about yourself is very difficult. Unlike women, men are more logical and consistent. But they cannot think as flexibly as a woman. Therefore, the first impression to change them is very difficult.
How to form a positive first impression?
There are certain rules that will help you leave a good impression after each acquaintance:
In fact, you can change the impression of yourself. But this will be the second, third or fourth impression. But the first impression is postponing a trace for all further communication. Especially in its early stages.
Of course, people tend to change, but when driving to work, the employer will judge you at the moment, it worries little, which you will be in 5 or 10 years. He chooses an employee now, and therefore judges about you in the present time. Therefore, it is always important to look good, because there is no second chance to make the first impression.
Errors of the first impression
It is worth remembering that what we see depends on how we look. It is worth looking at a person a little differently, and from a negligent arrogant type, it turns into a cute smile young man, always ready to help.
Due to lack of life experience or knowledge, a person often judges incorrectly. The article previously contained an example with a neighbor and a girl. Such a neighbor is just an example of a non-smooth and petty person. Of course, the opinion of such people is not worth oriented. If you found out in the face of a neighbor yourself - immediately change your views on the world. And first of all, make an assessment of your mistakes.
The first impression is deceptive
The first impression is deceptive for people who are accustomed to not changing their opinions about people. Those who have a flexible mind are able to appreciate the person right and see in it who he really is.
You can get dressed as you like. Color your hair in any color. Man will not change from it. It's more stupid or smarter. But the opinion about him with each transformation will change in a diametrically opposite direction.
Video: how to make the first impression
People form an opinion about a person based on their feelings from what they see. Numerous psychological studies confirmed that this method is correct in the absolute majority of cases.
When you evaluate a person, then the first thing is to check his personal qualities intuitively. You analyze how much it matches your own installers and "standards".
But how can I understand something for the first minutes or even seconds of communication? Oddly enough, the reason is that another person evaluates you in the same way, and it is your reaction to each other that allows you to both make a loyal opinion.
Everything happens so. When you meet, you seem to exchange some signals, and some ancient parts of your brain make a decision, it is possible to take a little more openness to this person. If the solution is positive, it is always noticeable by micro gestures and minor changes in facial expressions. Another person does the same. This is a multistage process, during which you either recognize that you like it, or something in it is alarming, and you close. In this case, most likely, a person is closed from you too.
Exceptions are really extremely rare. If a person does not work adequately to "exchange" mutual opinions about each other, it may even indicate some mental deviations.
No matter how highly organized creatures people, the conscious part of the brain is still only a tiny island in the ocean of unconscious processes. Most of the actions that your brain makes is impossible to fix with thoughts. However, consciousness sets a vector that allows you to control some things. For example, you yourself can try to work on what impression you make.
How to make the best impression in the first minutes
It is known that people tend to sympathize with themselves. Therefore, similar style in clothes and some "identifying" signs, such as logos of any brands or musical groups, can make half the work for you. But if you meet someone about whom you do not know anything, for example, go for an interview, then try to take the following steps.
Very carefully prepare your clothes. It should reflect that promise you carries. When you are arranged by the manager to a large company, in no case can you afford a carelessness in clothes. But here if you are a representative of the creative profession, then the perfect business suit may even alert the interviewer. In any case, the clothes must be very neat.
Be open and smile. Do not cross your hands on your chest and do not fold on foot. Keep calm. Do not rub clothes, do not hesitate to watch the interlocutor in the eyes. Openness expressed by gestures always works for you. The main thing is that it was natural. If you are difficult and you are nervous, it is better to behave a little more closed, but not intense.
This term came up with Nalini Ambady psychologists in 1992 (Nalini Ambady) and Robert Rosenthal. They used it in the study of the phenomenon of the first impression and social intuition.
According to the hypothesis, the non-verbal behavior of a person can tell a lot about him. To test this assumption, scientists recorded 10-second videos without sound, in which Harvard teachers read lectures. The video was demonstrated unfamiliar to people who were unfamiliar with the teachers and asked them to evaluate the protruding parameters ("thin sections"). Volunteers were judged as far as the lecturers are active, confident, soul and so on.
Then the experiment was repeated, but there were already 5-second rollers and another group of spectators. Surprisingly, thin cuts in both cases practically coincided. Scientists went further: the timing reduced to 2 seconds, and the experiment participants renew again. The result was repeated.
After that, the researchers were asked to characterize teachers of students who attend their lectures and know them not one semester. And here was the main surprise.
Thin sections among students and third-party observers who evaluated teachers only by short "silent" rollers practically coincided. This allowed to summarize:
People conclude about those whom they see for the first time, very quickly, literally during the first 2 seconds of communication. At the same time, their judgment is not connected with what a man says.
Let's find out which thin cuts do about us people in the first seconds of dating.
Confidence
Alexander Todorov (Alexander Todorov) and Janine Willis from Princeton University that people make a conclusion about the reliability of the interlocutor for 100 milliseconds.
One group showed photos of the people unfamiliar to them and asked to assess the degree of their attractiveness, competence and reliability. Each snapshot was shown 0.1 seconds. Another group was given the same pictures, but the time was not limited. As a result of the evaluation of the participants in the experiment, contemplated photos of only 100 milliseconds, coincided with the estimates of those who considered photo how much wanted. Especially strongly correlation was traced when evaluating the level of confidence in personality.
Social status
The study of Dutch scientists has shown that people use clothing as a social marker that determines the situation in society and the income level of the individual. When a man wears Tommy Hilfiger, Lacoste, or things of other famous brands surrounding think that he ranks high.
In one of the experiments, participants showed video interviews of applicants for the post of laboratory assistant at the university. Some of the applicants were dressed in simple white shirts, and a part - in shirts with a clearly indicated brand. But all the actions and speech were identical. Each volunteer was shown only by one video, after watching which he had to evaluate the seven-bull scale, as far as the applicant is worthy of position and what is his social status. The position in the society of applicants in designer clothes was assessed above, as well as their chances of getting a job.
Sexual orientation
Nalini Ambady and Nicholas Rule (Nicholas Rule) conducted a study, and it turned out that the sexual orientation of a man can be defined for 50 milliseconds.
Volunteers showed photos of men (Hetero and Homo) from dating sites in an arbitrary order during different time intervals. With a 50-millisecond visual contact with the photo accuracy of sexual orientation estimates was 62%.
Approximately the same results were obtained in the study of the likelihood of the definition of women's sexual accessories (Rule, Ambady & Hallett, 2009). And the time for this was required even less - 0.04 seconds.
Intelligence
Professor of Psychology of the University of Loiol in Los Angeles Nora Murphy (Nora A. Murphy) assumes that the ability to look into the eyes is considered a sign of mind. Those who at the meeting do not take a look will impress more intellectually developed persons.
Murphy tried to determine which criteria people evaluate mental abilities. For this, the subjects were divided into two groups: first asked during a conversation recorded on video, clearly demonstrate erudition; The second of such instructions were not given. All participants passed the IQ test. "The players" behaved about the same way: they kept posture, they did a serious face and they certainly looked into the eyes of the interlocutor. And it was in this group that the audience most often determined the level of intelligence of participants, including low.
Visual contact during a conversation is the key to behavior. This is interconnected with an assessment of the intellect, which can be manipulated, if not to hide the eyes.
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Liberation
British scientists found that women with tattoos in prominent parts of the body are perceived as more dissolved (who loving tightly drink and lead erratic sexual life).
The authors of the research Viren Swami (Viren Swami) and Adrian Furham (Adrian Furham) showed participants in the experiment of photos of women in swimsuits. One of them was tattoo on the stomach, others - in their hands, in third and there and there, and the fourths were not there. Volunteers asked to evaluate women in three parameters:
- moral stability;
- alcohol consumption;
- physical appeal.
The more tattooed woman was, the less attractive and chaste the chastity. "The girl with a tattoo in the eyes of the public is a kid who loves alcohol, steep cars and attention of men," scholars summed up.
Leadership
Albert Mannes (Albert E. Mannes) From the Warlon Business School of the University of Pennsylvania found out that the domination is attributed to the lady of men, they are perceived as leaders who can successfully lead the team.
Scientist conducted a number of experiments. During one of them, he demonstrated photographs of men with hair and without. Persons in the photo were the same age and in the same clothing. Volunteers had to take a look at the pictures and say who of men is stronger in moral and physical plane. Palm Championship went to Lysim.
Success
A group of British-Turkish researchers found that people in costumes stitched by individual order produce impressions more successful in their career.
This conclusion researchers also came during experiments with photos. Volunteers were enough 5 seconds to conclude.
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Also, the study states that women in sexual skirts and blouses with a deep neckline are perceived as workers with lower status than women, strictly observe the dress code. Scientists associate this with the fact that the closed body is a sign of power. EFFECT impacts Representatives of power structures wore closed apparels.
Potential
In 2011, Canadian researchers came to this conclusion: in the eyes of the people around the surrounding men who prefer the classical business suit, fastest seeks fame, money and success than Casual's style adherents.
Experiment participants showed photos of models. Some of them were in elegant suits, and part in simple everyday things. Volunteers asked to predict who people would work in the photo and what fate would be waiting for them. As a result, men in jeans and sweaters attributed a lower wage and positions, even if they were sitting in leather chairs in chic offices. And on the contrary, about persons in strict costumes were judged as "kings of life": they will have a lot of money, they will quickly succeed.
Adventurism
Employees of the University of Daurus found a connection between the gait and the thirst for adventure. In their opinion, a free and relaxed tread speaks of extroversion and inclinations to adventures. While the dörgan gait is inherent in neurotic personalities.
The conclusions were made during the experiment, where students watched videos with walking people.
As you can see, the folk wisdom "meet for dressing ..." has scientific justifications. At the same time, the first impression produced by man often remains final.
And what do you pay attention to when you meet and why? Tell us in the comments.
How to make a certain opinion about a person?
What would fully and true the opinion about the person (the first impression), it is necessary to compare both half as one whole, and not to look only on one of them - external or internal. Important Sun, and appearance, and what inside the appearance. We receive the first impressions from the view - the appearance of a person, and then from his character, mind, spirituality, comparing this Sun together, not separately from each other. Because it is closely connected as two halves of one whole, and that reflect yourself in each other. Appearance - speaks of outdoor beauty or e absence, and spirituality and thoughts on the beauty of the inner world of a person, about his qualities of character, its advantages or disadvantages. And of course in order to learn a better person - what is generally plan, at its base - time is necessary, and communication with him. The intentions of a person and his dreams will say a lot about NM - as far as a person is more kind or more angry, as far as he is smart, noble, responsive, or more selfish, as great or chalk, with a living light in the shower or with ice floes in the heart.
A certain opinion about a person does not develop immediately. If someone determines the essence of a person only by how it is dressed - not very smart.
Just the opposite. Very gifted people of slopes in clothing and appearance. For them, this is a secondary question. The main thing for them is their thoughts that overflow their heads and which they are all the time.
But this does not mean that with a gifted person is fine. He may be an unbearable boring and surrounding simply will not be able to endure it for a long time. So the genius and communicability as a rule in one person is not friends.
Based on the above written, a person can do a judgment on his conversation, manners, by interacting with others, by his ability to leav for their difficult situations and only least in appearance.
I try to trust my intuition and life experience, although they happen, summarize. It matters communication, conversations, from which you can draw conclusions about the views of a person, his behavior, at least in everyday life, tactfully ask questions, answers to which, too, can tell a lot about a person if they are sincere. But correctly say to find out a person, It is necessary to eat salt with him. And then you will not know to the end.
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And yet, psychologists claim that the first impression is the right (at the level of intuition). But it seems to me that clothes also playing a role, I am not talking about dear, I'm talking about a carefully dressed person - this respect for others Old people say that the person needs to be judged by how he belongs to old, small, cripples and animals. I think this test is the most faithful. If a person can regret the one who will not be able to be useful to him in the future, then it speaks of noble Soul. I really liked the question, because we are so often mistaken in people, especially when we are looking for your half.
I recently heard what kind of man in evil and in the signupation, he really is. I think that there is a grain to do not control myself and gives everything that he is inside. This is interesting !!
The main rule is to trust your heart, your intuition. Check in the actions that this person makes not only to you, but also to other people, children, animals. Especially brightly, a person is revealed in trifles. Children and animals are usually drawn to a good person, checked more than once. It is not always possible to make a certain opinion in the first meeting, look at a person in different situations.
The first impression is the appearance. Then communication. And only after that I form my opinion. There are still things that I personally do not like immediately: Speed, insincerity. It is immediately visible and even the appearance will not save. And sometimes a person is dressed not very, but he is going positive. Regarding the appearance, now it is a very controversial indicator. Now we have no such wild attitude towards clothes, people want to feel free. And the appearance does not speak at all about the situation in society. Actually so all over the world and this is normal. Passed chains with finger. 🙂
To make some kind of opinion about a person, you need with him, at least, to talk tightly and, as a maximum, to visit him in some stressful situation. Then it certainly will be a certain opinion.
For this you need to see it in those situations when it is manifested as possible. For example, laughs. Walks. Helloing, stretches his hand for a handshake. Meets guests, talking on the phone with different people. Decides to buy, and what not.
Sometimes there is quite a quick glance. Sometimes there are several offers on the network. Sometimes years. It depends on the experience, knowledge of life, education and the readiness of someone who wants to understand another person.
If, for example, to get acquainted with primes of the physonism, you can learn to analyze the type of person and in appearance.
A certain opinion is to set limits further which you prohibit yourself thinking. I prefer to do this at all.
a certain opinion about a person develops by itself after some time communication. Often a person is judged by his actions, in a manner behave in society, by the sense of humor, in clothes, in appearance, according to friends about this person