Scientists say the more often a person lies, the harder it is to see! But, despite this, there is a special language of gestures and facial expressions that you need to know about.
The person talking to you, when transmitting false information, he experiences excitement, pay attention to his look, movement and voice. You will see how his speech, behavior and movement will change. When learning the language of facial expressions, special attention should be paid to the tempo and timbre of a person's voice and speech parameters.
When a person utters false information, his intonation immediately changes, there is a noticeable slowdown or acceleration, there is a stretching of speech. The timbre of the voice changes, high notes appear or, on the contrary, the hoarseness is sudden. The person's voice trembles, some even stutter.
Sight
A person has a shifting gaze - a person is insincere in front of you, this is how this possible sign is interpreted as psychology of facial expressions. Sometimes, this is a sign of confusion, shyness, uncertainty, but definitely, this is a sign that the reliability of this information is doubtful and worth checking. A person always hides and averts his eyes when he is embarrassed and ashamed from his lies. While you should also be careful with your gaze, the other person may be lying too. When looking closely at the interlocutor, in facial expressions, it is the fact that the speaker is watching the reaction of the person he is listening to. Does a person telling a lie control how his incorrect information is perceived, doubts or does he still believe?
Smile
In order to learn using the psychology of facial expressions, to see a person's insincerity, it is very important to pay attention to his smile! Many people who lie are given a slight smile on their faces. This does not apply to people who are always cheerful and cheerful, they have such a style of communication. Indeed, a smile that is inappropriate in a conversation should alert you. Often, laughing, this is how a person tries to hide his inner experience when he uses lies.
In order to recognize a lie by facial expressions, you need to carefully look at the interlocutor. You will see how the liar's facial muscles are slightly tense, this is a characteristic phenomenon. This facial expression lasts for a few seconds, although it happens throughout the entire conversation. American researchers claim that facial muscle tension is instantaneous, this is the surest sign of your interlocutor's insincerity.
The involuntary reaction of the skin and other parts of the face that a person cannot control is also an indicator of lies. Such as, continuous blinking of the eyes, the color of the skin changes - the interlocutor turns pale or reddens, lips may tremble, pupils are very dilated. Also pay attention to the various other individual emotions that are displayed that are accompanied by deception.
TO how to recognize a smile of deceit using body language and facial expressions? The lips seem to be pulled slightly back from the upper and lower teeth, an oblong lip line is formed, as a result, the smile is shallow, it is insincere and not beautiful. A smile that is sincere, it suits every person's face, it decorates and with it a person is rich and successful!
Eyes
Here's an example of how the eyes can tell about deception. If the person is sincere with you, two-thirds of the time you interact, he will look you in the eye throughout the conversation. If a person is lying, he will meet your eyes, only one third of your communication time. When a man lies, he examines the floor, the woman, admires the ceiling.
Inconsistency in the work of the muscles of the face is also a sign of the interlocutor's lies. Everyone knows that on the left side of the face and on the right, our feelings are displayed, on one side, they are weaker, and on the other stronger.
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Many people can subconsciously give out their lies in sign language, you will never catch a professional swindler, politician, or competent leader, lying, watching them, because these people know very well about them, work and constantly control their facial expressions and gestures. It will be useful for you in everyday life, in communicating with colleagues at work or in other places where you spend your time.
Rubs nose
The person who is trying to deceive you, when talking, scratches and rubs your earlobes, scratches your nose, but remember that the nose can often itch.
Unnatural smile
The interlocutor tries to smile unnaturally, such a smile is often encountered, a person forcibly tries to smile.
Holds on to something, puts himself in order
When talking, a person constantly touches his hair, holds on to something that is nearby, for example, a chair, a table.
All of a sudden, a person begins to put things in order, to sort things out, sort, shift to other places, behind these actions, he tries to hide a lie.
Covers his mouth, dodges
The interlocutor tries to cover his mouth, or holds his hand to his throat or mouth. This gesture is a signal that the person is lying. The body of a person goes back, evades suddenly, as if it swayed while riding in transport. Also, if the person bites their nails or lips, think about the veracity of the stories you hear!
Shiver
The interlocutor has a strange incomprehensible tremor, he tries to restrain it, but it does not stop. Today, very often, you can see how a person, while talking, straightens his collar, or laces. Sometimes, the hand, of course, unconsciously by a person, is near the groin area. The posture of the speaking person often changes, it seems that he cannot comfortably sit on a chair or sofa.
Frequent coughing and puffing
Frequent coughing of a speaking person is also a sign of untruthfulness, as if someone does not allow him to speak, interferes and discourages him from lying.
It turns out that a person who smokes takes puffs very often, and cigarettes can tell a lot about a person.
Closed poses
A person hides and hides his hands wherever there is an opportunity, this is also a gesture of lies. Takes small steps or moves from one leg to the other, the impression is that he is cold and does not know how to warm up.
Fencing off from you, the interlocutor, crosses his arms and legs, so it is easier for him to deceive you.
Tilts his head down or back - this is a great desire to hide and close from you.
Holding your breath
Men tend to hold their breath during deception. The interlocutor can sit with half-closed or closed eyes - he experiences a very great sense of guilt. But do not be confused, a state of fatigue, when a person wants to sleep and barely looks at you.
Quiet at first, then loud
A person who does not speak the truth speaks softly at first, as if whispering, after which, surprising everyone present, speaks too loudly.
Sweat droplets
Beads of sweat may appear on the face of the person who is lying. Also, this gesture is used if a person is upset or in anger, he tries to cool his ardor by moving the collar back.
Carefully read body language and facial expressions
Lying gestures, experts consider imperceptible and easy, and they cannot be compared with those that we use every day, scratching our ear or nose.
Women tend to disguise their gestures, sometimes it looks like flirting or a touch of makeup, therefore, women, it is much easier to mislead men.
Sometimes, though gestures and facial expressions, can assert their different meanings, not everyone reads them correctly, be very careful when a person scratches his nose, or looks away, not always, this is a lie.
If you have known a person for a long time and well, then it will not be difficult to recognize a lie.
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"It is impossible to read thoughts, it only happens in fairy tales and in science fiction," - you say. Well, why, for example, back in the summer I talked about modern developments that make it possible to read brain signals with varying reliability, to determine people's emotions. But after all the human brain is a machine more powerful than any computer... Of course, we do not know how to literally read the thoughts of the interlocutor, but we can quite feel his emotions, distinguish between lies and truth. Moreover, it can be learned. But this will require good observation.
Don't wave your arms!
When communicating, we most often use gestures. Some people have this to a greater extent, others less, but gestures and body position betray each of us... Let's look at some examples.
The first pointer to the state of the interlocutor is closed and open gestures... In psychology, there is such a concept as "locks": if the interlocutor crosses his arms over his chest or otherwise fences himself off from the interlocutor, it means that he is not very comfortable communicating. Moreover, this can mean both the fact that he does not like the interlocutor, and the fact that he is generally not very comfortable communicating with strangers. And, on the contrary, "open position" (open arms, turning the body towards the interlocutor, leaning forward) usually means goodwill and focus on contact.
Some body positions during communication symbolize a peculiar try to escape: if a person turns his face away from his interlocutor or his feet are directed toes in the opposite direction, this indicates that he wants to get away from the conversation as soon as possible, and, perhaps, physically leave the interlocutor.
The insincerity of the interlocutor is often expressed by other unconscious gestures: hands on the face. If a person nervously fiddles with their earlobe, touches their nose, or touches their neck during a conversation, it is more likely that they are not telling the truth. Remember, when children cheat, they cover their mouths with their hands. This unconscious reaction of rejection of lies is transformed with age into similar gestures. Frequent blinking or too fast speech can also indicate insincerity. But you can analyze such behavior only if you know the usual behavior of this person: if he blinks all the time or speaks too quickly, this does not mean that he is constantly cheating.
He somehow looks at me wrong
Each person can express their emotions with a glance, if desired. But close observation of the interlocutor's eyes will help to guess his emotions, even if he himself does not want it.
For example, a glance directed at the bridge of the nose indicates the business spirit of your interlocutor. Our friends and good acquaintances can look below. Even lower - in the chest area - people who have a completely non-platonic interest in the interlocutor often look (however, that I am telling you, girls, such obvious things)... And one more evidence - a downward glance usually indicates the embarrassment of your interlocutor.
A look directed upwards to the left often indicates that a person recalls some kind of impression, and to the left downwards - that he is trying to create a visual image, a picture in his head.
People look up to the right when they are trying to remember something, and down - when they think about some information and try to make a decision.
Theory and practice
Of course, it is impossible to give an interpretation to all gestures and views within the framework of one article, therefore, in order to understand more than what is said in words, one must study the relevant literature. For example, the book by Alan Pease "Body language". But theory is not enough to learn how to apply it in practice, you need to practice.
For example, you can to carry out a kind of psychological games in the company of friends. Ask each other any questions, and let someone answer them the truth, and someone deceives. Others will need to understand whether a person is honest and reason their decision by observing his gaze, gestures and facial expressions. In this way, you will simultaneously learn to decipher the gestures and gazes of others and control your own non-verbal cues to no one could guess your thoughts.
Do you well feel the thoughts and emotions of the interlocutors? Have you ever been able to understand something that was not said in words? Tell your stories.
Scratching and Rubbing the Ear
In fact, this gesture is caused by the listener's desire to isolate himself from words by placing his hand near or above the ear. This gesture is an adult enhanced modification of the gesture of a small child when he covers his ears so as not to listen to reproaches from parents. Other options for touching your ear include rubbing your ear, drilling in your ear (with your fingertip), pulling your earlobe, or bending your ear to try to cover the opening. This last gesture indicates that the person has heard enough and wants, perhaps, to speak out.
From the book Body Language [How to read the thoughts of others by their gestures] author Pease AlanHand Gestures. Rubbing the Palms Recently, a friend of ours and my wife came to visit us to discuss the details of our upcoming trip to the mountains. During the conversation, she unexpectedly leaned back in her chair, smiled broadly, and rubbing her palms, exclaimed: “I can't
From the book Political Body Language author Tsenyov VitRubbing the thumb on the index finger Rubbing the thumb on the index finger or the tips of the other fingers is usually used to indicate money and expect money to be received as payment. Salespeople often use this gesture when communicating with their
From the author's bookRubbing the Eyes The wise monkey says, “I see no sin,” closing his eyes. This gesture is caused by the desire in the brain to hide from the deception, suspicion or lies that he is facing, or the desire to avoid looking in the eyes of the person to whom he is telling a lie.
From the author's bookScratching and Rubbing the Ear In fact, this gesture is caused by the listener's desire to block out words by placing a hand near or on top of the ear. This gesture is an adult enhanced modification of the gesture of a small child when he covers his ears so as not to listen.
From the author's bookScratching the Neck In this case, the person scratches the area under the earlobe or the side of the neck with the index finger of the right hand. Our observation of this gesture revealed an interesting point: the person usually makes five scratching movements. Very rare quantity
From the author's bookRubbing the Back of the Head and Slapping the Forehead An exaggerated variation of the collar pulling gesture is rubbing the back of the neck with the palm of the hand, what Kalero called the "aching neck" gesture. If a person makes this gesture while uttering a lie, he looks away
From the author's bookRubbing the tip of the nose One of the most common gestures that signals insincerity or deception is when a person touches their nose or touches a dimple under their nose several times. Alan Pease (renowned interpreter
From the author's bookRubbing the eyelids It is rather difficult for a person who is lying to look into the eyes of the one or those who listen to him. But if you lie and at the same time avoid making eye contact with your listeners, then they will suspect something was wrong, because they themselves do so. Therefore there is a disguised
From the author's bookScratching the neck and pulling on the collar These gestures do not explicitly mean that the person is lying, but are suspicious signals that indicate that something strange is happening in the conversation. Scratching your neck usually means doubt and disagreement, and if
According to research, only a tenth of information is conveyed by a person in words. The rest is in gestures, facial expressions and intonation. The first intuitive "scan" of a person takes about 10 seconds. People do not always say what they think, but the body cannot lie. Hidden feelings find their way out through gestures. The psychology of non-verbal communication is very broad and multifaceted. By learning to understand a person's gestures and their meanings, finding out the truth will be much easier.
Classification of gestures
Friction of the eyelid can also indicate that the interlocutor is telling a lie. If the deception is serious enough, the person may avert their eyes to the side or lower them down, stroke their neck or ears. But all these signs should be considered together.
- People who want to emphasize their unshakable position can make firm hand gestures to emphasize the transition from one topic to another. Such gestures of people are clearly demonstrated in photos.
- If the situation is very tense, it is worth using hand movements to defuse it a little. Serious phrases can be illustrated with cheerful gestures. This will cheer up the audience a little and charge the atmosphere with positive.
- You shouldn't become a clown and make ridiculous movements. Gestures and facial expressions of a person should draw attention to the main conversation, and not distract from it. In addition, they must be clear to everyone present.